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writes:Please could people who know kerb crawlers and if you have enough confidence a kerb crawler help me with my problem...My husband is a kerb crawler, OI found out christmas day 2006 his as he says last successful meeting!!!!!So my question to you men, can you really give up crawling???You see he says he has- realising how much he has lost and is trying to put it back together BUT can you really stop once you have been doing it for years and years. Am I just kidding myself that I might be able to have a relationship with a "change" man? please if you ahve experienced this or yourself have opinions I really need to hear. Thanks in advance. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): A kerb crawler is someone who picks up prostitutes in a car, Littlesuziepie.
Unfortunately madam, I am unable to help properly because I have little experience with this type of behaviour. But before he promises to change, you have to find out why he acted like this, what was in his mind, and what will cause him to change for good. How long has he been visiting prostitutes? All through your marriage, or before, did it start when he was young? What dose he get from them that he can't get at home? Dose the risk of being caught turn him on? Are there extreme sexual practices that he likes that he is frightened to tell you about?
I'm not blaming you dear wife, far from it, I just would love to know what went through his mind for him to do this to you?
How did you find out. I guess he didn't tell you, so how did he get caught? When did he see these prostitutes, in the daytime, at night, at lunchtimes? Did you never suspect what was going on?
There are so many questions to ask before I would even begin to forgive him and trust him. A man who visits prostitutes whilst married is showing very devious behaviour.
How quickly did you forgive him, was there any punishment for his behaviour, are you still intimate and having sex with him?
People can change and marriage can recover from all types of devastating behaviour. But a man who lies constantly and visits prostitutes has some very serious work to do. "Sorry, it won't happen again" wouldn't be nearly enough for me to believe that he has changed.
Please update your post giving more details, and then people will be able to give you better advice on how to tackle this lying cheating husband of yours, who has treated you with so much disrespect.
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reader, littlesuziepie  +, writes (30 September 2008):
 Please explain to me what a kerb crawler does? I am not farmiliar with that term. I may be able to help you. I have done a lot and seen a lot and been around all types of people. If you wish to give an update please do so. Thanks
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