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writes:i am 19 and for the last 5 years i have been with the same person. We now have a gorgeous son who is 5 months old. Ever since the beginning of our relationship everything was fun we didnt have sex untill about a year after we met just recentlly after i had my son my fiance has been talking about wanting threesomes changing partners trying new things I dont understand 5 years now he wants something new..I am considering it but really dont want things to fall apart.he says let him try theese things once then everything will be ok I dont know what to do what to say why does he want this what would happen if I say yes??????
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reader, FETSEA  +, writes (19 September 2008):
Adventures are better than "BED VETURES". You both are married 5 years. You say, you are 19,with your first child and have been his love and care for 5 years now. How old is he, what is his work environ, and has he of late turned to porno? Is there much drop in both your sexual rende -zvous. Threesome is danger. Assuming the third party is a male, and you get infatuated to have private sessions, what would happen? On the other hand, if the third party is a woman, and she steals him away, what happens. Both of you in tgetherness, echo the third in each other's ears.
He calls you by her name, and you call him by a male name, and in the act, suggest, arouse and satisfy kindled sex.
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reader, sweetontweety7777 +, writes (5 September 2008):
 hope i have the right movie...... hehehe sorry if this is wrong but watch INDECENT PROPOSAL. might give you some perspective on this matter. something quite a few of us have battled. what is wrong with you bad boys. lol anyways, i am a very openminded and very willing to try new things. HOWEVER, just got through with this little proposition. won't do it. i feel like that is a bridge that if you cross it, there is no turning back. be it another woman or another man. TRUST is completely thrown out the window. and, to add another piece of my slinder wisdom, we never know how we are going to react to a situation until it is toooooooooooo lateeeeeeeeeeee. THINK LONG AND HARD
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reader, cuck counselor  +, writes (28 August 2008):
There are many reasons why he might want to do threesomes. First of all don't over-react. It is important that you both continue to talk openly and honestly about your desires/needs.Threesomes and partner swapping is not as unusual as you might expect, especially with older couples. At age 19 it is a very delicate age to assume that you and your partner will remain monogamous with each other. True you may have taken vows etc. but statistically the reality is much different.The thing to assess first is are the two of you happy together. Threesomes are not a way to fix a broken marriage. However they can be very fulfilling for happy couples who have urges/fantasies and needs that are not being met in a 1-1 sexual relationship. Men tend to be visually stimulated whereas women are more emotionally stimulated. Maybe he just wants to get off watching you or maybe he is bi-curious or maybe he just wants to share the secret of how great you are in bed with another male friend. If you can develop a friendship with another m/f whom you are attracted to without threatening your relationship with your partner then recreational sex can be as fulfilling and innocent as a night out with friends; and why not as long as you are all open and honest and respectful of each other?Of course, you have to decide for yourself whether or not to choose this option. Don't get swayed by someone else's moral values.If you research art history, the history of sex and erotica you'll find that multiple sex has been a part of human nature for centuries. Choosing to do it or not is a personal choice not a societal or moral value.Just be patient, respectful and safe and comfortable with your decision.
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reader, starismine1 +, writes (27 August 2008):
 It's common for guys to fantasize about having this with their wife/girlfriend, but it sounds like your boyfriend is seriously pressuring you to do this to spice things up. And his timing, after having a child, is very telling. He may feel he's lost some emotional intimacy with you. How was your sex life before the baby? I would suggest you suggest alternatives to spice things up, including fantasy role playing, videos, etc. (without actual doing the fantasy in real life). If you aren't comfortable with doing any of this, or the alternative things you suggest aren't accepted by him,I would strongly suggest marital counseling for both of you.
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reader, KeepSmiling  +, writes (27 August 2008):
 I understand where you are coming from i have been in the same situation and the way i looked at it was if he wanted to experience something so extreme and not think about me or my child then is it really worth being together.
If you dont feel comfortable then say no dont do it because you are scared of losing him because he would respect what ever you said dont feel like your trapped or that you have to please him go with your heart and think about your kid x
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