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writes:Hi... i feel kinda embarassed to asked this but i have to since i cant get answers from my bf.. We've been together for almost 7 months now, out of all that time he has been watching porn for like 1 1/2 almost EVERY DAY.. He didnt tell me he was doing it and i asked him several times if i was because he started acting different towards me and he kept denying it and he kept on acting weird with me so i decided to go and find out the truth myself.. I went tru his computer and found all the porn websites that hes been looking at and confronted him, he felt bad and embarrased about it (but he came up with this stupid excuse; "Well im 22 years old and im full or testosterone and i need to get it off") so why he doesnt want to have sex if "needs" to get it off??.. We used to have sex every day but ever since he started looking at porn hes changed a lot with me he doesnt want to do it as often anymore and whenever i told him i wanted to do it he always said he was tired (i understand that part because hes been working 6 days a week lately) but why he has enough energy to get it off looking at porn and not doing it with his girlfriend? Does this means hes not completly satify with me? or hes not attracted to me anymore? hes lost interest?? i dont know what to think.. please someone HELLLLPPP MEEE
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): Habitual use of pornography by a man in a relationship is a sign of immaturity and/or insecurity. Somewhere in his development he became enamored with sexual fantasy--to the point that he is more comfortable with it than a real warm-blooded relationship. If you care about the guy enough to want to stay with him, don't feel threatened if he back-slides once or twice. And don't every let him talk you into watching pornography together (you can see where that is going). Pornography is not harmless. When a man would rather satisfy himself rather than another human being, something is out of kilter.
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reader, PcAhMr3iLsA +, writes (27 April 2009):
PcAhMr3iLsA is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks so much 4 all your answers.. we had a huge fight over it, he was super embarrased about it. I told him that if he was not goin stop i did not want 2 b with him. He hasnt looked at any porn since..So i would like to think that he cares and doesnt want 2 lose me.Thanks everyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): The porn is not making him act differently. This has nothing to do with your relationship. If you take the porn away, he will switch to THINKING about porn while masterbating. Nearly ALL 18-24 year old males masterbate once a day. I agree that 1 and a half hours is excessive. If I were you, I would look elsewhere in his life, like where he is hangin out, and who he is hangin out WITH. I smell a cheater on this guy. If you find nothing, or if he hangs with you all of the time, i would back off because if males feel like you are closing in on them, they often times leave. Sooo... If you want him, leave him alone.
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reader, just wondering +, writes (17 April 2009):
Do not compromise yourself by saying you will ever do any thing they are doing in the videos. it is amazing how addictive porn is like an alcoholic. It has nothing to do with you but habit and his own insecurity and now an addiction. If you can throw computer out and tell him he needs to stop or lose you. It is grous and demeaning and you need the ultimatum. Are you or him more important. IF he can not stop take him to AA for it and let them help the addiction.
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reader, irishgirlm  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 firstly u need to turn off the internet off his porn fest!!
why dont you try something to spice it up a bit like come in wearing nothing or practically nothing and sit on him while he's at the computer he'll soon focus on you!:D
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