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writes:Hey. Really need some help with this. I've been speaking to a guy on msn for months. I know him. He lives in my area and he's a friend of friends. We speak a lot on msn and he basically won't leave me be. But when I see him at school I swear he avoids me. For weeks he's been ignoring me. I've asked on this before what I should do about it and people have urged me to speak to him and say hi. But, e.g. today, he was sitting with my friends, just him and them and I thought yes, I can try to talk to him. But as soon as I came over he left. He's shy but speaks to other people. Just not me. He won't look at me even. It's rude and it upsets me coz he won't leave me be on msn. He talks to me a lot and I feel quite close to him.I want to give up on him and move on. But I kind of like him. I think it's rude and unkind what he does.I've caught him looking at me, but when I look he looks away. He'll act as if I'm not there. I get the idea that he doesn't care but on msn he'll talk to me straight. It drives me up the wall coz I just don't know what to think.Does anyone know why he does this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): aw my god, exact same is happening to me; i hate it... he just won't speak to me at school, and my person isn't shy its just with me, all my friends keep getting on at me for not speaking to him, we bassically act like we are in love on msn, but at school just blank each other; my advice is for a week you should get his attention and smile at him then a next week start saying hi, and another week you should gradually be able to bring up a conversation with him, trust me i know how you feel, its seriousally starting to bring me down know|-)! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all so much. I'm really grateful for some feedback coz I don't know if I'm being all biased about it. So cheers all of you.
My friends have started to say stuff now though, hinting that something's going on between us. One of them told me that we should go out. They don't know how I feel and it's not obvious that I like him, unless they've noticed me staring...
You don't have to reply but do you make anything of this?
Thanks again.
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reader, cat niple  +, writes (13 October 2009):
wait dont brake up. im the kind of person like him.
I can tell that he is very shy because hes just like me. Shy guys can't talk to a girl that he likes because when he see your face, he looks back because your pretty. That is why he can talk to you so much at msn. Sounds rude? sorry I cant explain it very well.
So next time you msn, go ask him i want to talk to you at that blah blah place only just 2 of us. Or ask him on msn why you dont talk to me at school? or whatever that place is.
He needs to beat that shyness and so do i. lol
If he still dosnt talk, ask him OUT. When I was like him liking a girl, after she ask me out, i started talking to her a lot then before.
Now we braked up but we are still friends. I really talk to her.
I think thats the way to make him talk.
Sorry. I bet this did not help...
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reader, Kalyov +, writes (13 October 2009):
 Maybe he is extremely shy and doesnt know how to act around you. I know how it is...I do the same.
It is so much easier to talk to someone online that you like then talk to them in person, or it is to me.
Next time he is online...maybe try asking him about it? But just take in mind he might like you and just be shy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): OMGosh, I TOTALLY understand this because I am the SAME exact way when I have a bad crush! Girl, he is IN TO YOU!!!! And you're apparently so gorgeous that he's having a panic attack when you're near and he's having to retreat to deal with his pounding heart!
Trust me on this one, he's smitten. And really frustrated with himself that he can't talk to you in person. That's why he's non-stop on MSN. He doesn't want you to think he doesn't like you - it's just that it's easier for him to be himself when you're not right in front of him, taking his breath away! You're going to have to take the lead on this one:
First of all, you need to tell him how you FEEL when he ignores you. Message him and tell him you love your conversations online but in person you wonder if it's really him you've been talking to because he's so aloof. Simply say "Sometimes I feel shy, too. Is there anything I can do to help you feel more comfortable talking to me? I'd really like to talk and hang out with you in person." For a boy this shy, you need to be gently forward. He needs to know you're interested and that you won't crush his feelings if he says something stupid or stammers around you.
Don't be surprised if he confesses his crush. Be prepared to HONESTLY tell him that you kind of like him, too. Then encourge him to not be so shy and ask him to hang out with you. YOU set up the hang-out time & place.
Again, trust me. The boy is nuts about you and probably kicks himself every day for not talking to you. I know I kicked myself any time I didn't talk to my crush! Best of luck! SNAG HIM, GIRL!!!!
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