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writes:Dear cupid, I can't stop feeling so upset that my good friend continues to be with a girl who is always being unfaithful to him. I've known the guy for a long time, he's a good friend of the family and is really like a family member to me. When he first got with this girl, she cheated on him almost immediately, and he decided to stay with her. They broke up for a while but have been back together for about 3 months now. During these last 3 months or so I've been at a few parties that she has also been at and I see her being all over all of these other guys. She flirts with them, dances and grinds on them, and even kisses them. I've even found out that she's had one night stands with some of them. I just think her behavior and unfaithfulness is ridiculous. A couple of his friends have noticed this but have also chose not to tell him about it.I know my friend knows of her cheating in the beginning, but I don't think he has any idea that she is still continuing to cheat on him now. I know it's not my place to tell him, but I hate to see him continue to get hurt and be with this type of girl. He seems to just be madly in love with her and she never acts like she cares about him at all. Why does he stay with this girl? How do I stop being upset about his relationship with her?
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (22 May 2013):
 Not your place to tell him? Some people may feel like it's not their place to tell something like this to another person, but I think you should.
If my significant other were cheating on me and one of my close friends witnessed it, I would expect them to tell me and not let me be blindsided.
My younger brother dated this girl for three years and she was nothing but a nightmare. She took all of his money, literally right out of his wallet, cheated on him, was abusive towards him, my younger sisters and my ill mother. She was entitled and felt that he owed her everything. She was a royal c**t. She was always picking fights with me and my older sister, none of which she would ever follow through with. And she was pregnant every other day.
Finally after three years of all of this and all of us constantly telling him to break up with her and move on, he finally did after he caught her cheating.
Perhaps your friend is mistaking infatuation for love and doesn't think he deserves or can get any better than this "woman." I personally would tell him what y ou have witnessed and just tell him that you'll be there for him if he needs you. You don't want to hurt him, but he deserves to know all the facts about the woman who supposedly loves him.
Don't get me wrong, telling him what you've seen could completely backfire. It's ultimately up to you what you want to tell him.
Good luck and hopefully he'll get away from her soon.
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