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writes:Okay, how long is this box? I have a lot to say. But how to word it. I'll start from the begging and I will try and keep it brief. I was thirteen when I met him, yes him, you know the one. He's the one that makes your heart skip a beat, the one you think about before you go to sleep and when you wake up in the morning. Basically all it took for me was one look. One simple look and I fell head over heels for him. But thirteen was young right? Well let's try five years later. 17 now and 18 in few months. Ridiculous right?I've been thinking that for years, when will I get over him, we broke up five freaking years ago, and I still can't get him out of my mind, he is driving me insane! We don't talk, he has a girl friend and personally I don't see what he does, even the family don't like her. He's everything to me. And he don't even know. I just want him but know it will never happen. I just want to forget about him but how? I'm close to his family and I go down there often and we both get drunk and it gets heated between us. And last year he told me something when he was drunk, and he told me hhe missed me, he loved me, that breaking up with me was the worst thing he has ever done and that if we were together now he would have a ring on my finger. He was with his current girl friend back then too. But why say those things and more, when I know he don't mean them. He's just playing with my emotions right? Right? But why would he, if he loves her so dearly? But does he mean it? Bee stop doing this to yourself, your going to end up hurting for the rest of your life. . .
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reader, Bee Rose +, writes (2 June 2011):
Bee Rose is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you to all your answers guys and CindyCares, I am working and I'm a full time college student and I want be a performer! It's not like I'm one of those girls with a tub of Chocolate ice cream tubs, locked in my room willowing in self pitty cause I can't have the guy I love? And E, the full story is long I just don't want people to be put off with long question and the Clairvoyant he said there was a future relationship with in seven months, (now six) my eighteenth, but how do I know it will happen, how do I even know he will turn up, though he should cause I turned up for his. . . I hardly see him thats the point and I can't just cut off contact with his family Anon, Aunty Karen and Uncle T, mean far too much to me and his little brother. Hopelessromantic15, you really are a hopless romantic your comment made me smile and believe there is hope, and maybe you are right that she's in less words 'opening her legs' for him, I wish that haha. Well I shall keep you all updated and post more questions and explanations nearer November. Lots of Love xxx
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reader, lysha +, writes (29 May 2011):
 ^Bee!
you left a million and one things out!
no offence to cindy cares your answer was pretty amazing, but bee maybe you need to explan it in full depth for people to understand, because me of all people knows this is one of the most trickiest love problems going/:
his family is close to hers, she calls one of them her aunty, its so much more comlicated and she has moved on with her life she is in college and she works but this is always at the back of her head, bee what about that women you went to see cant remember what their called:')!
you know my view, come on everyone has said he doesnt really love his girlfriend and their on rough tides, and that women that predicted that date, we both know it all adds up, this is why we have said to sit back and wait, its not like you can get with anyone else because he is always on your mind and well baby i just think you need to explain this in all its little depths crooks and crannies:')!
its what this site is for, doesnt matter how long it is, the people who have joined are here to help, so go for it and spill!xxxx
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 May 2011):
 Exactly. You are wallowing in drama and self pity when it would be so simple to start effectively moving on if you wanted to.
Stop being close to his family. Stop going down there often. Stop drinking, at least when you are around him. Stop investigating about him , his thoughts, his relationships, it's none of your business now.
And- fill your life. More. When people has got so much ease to obsess about something that ended five years ago, it means they have too much time on their hands, or nothing interesting enough to fill their thoughts, or both.
Start whining ,and DO something. Study. Work. Volunteer .
Cultivate new interests , discover new passions, make new friends. You've got health and youth : use them to build a great future, not to idealize a bygone past.
Why did he say those things ? because he was drunk, simple. Haven't you ever seen drunk people slurring and saying : hey man, I love you, you are my bestest friend...
to casual acquaintances or even perfect strangers ?.
If this explanation is too simple for you, ok, we can admit he was playing with your emotions, which should be another good reason to let him go. And the fact that by doing that he is disrespecting his gf and not showing her true love... yes, it could be, but, why do you care ? Her problem, not yours.
Sorry, I am generally softer with teenage love pains, but 5 years ? 5 years it's a long time, and you need to snap out of this Harlequin novel frame of mind !
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): If he misses you so much how is it that he isn't back with you? Tell him you can't cope with it and how you feel, and then stop seeing his family and him. If he meant it, he will come back and if he was just soppy because of the drink he won't. But still seeing him will not solve the problem of being able to let go.
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reader, hopelessromantic15  +, writes (29 May 2011):
Mmm, I think he loves you dearly. But this other chick is probably easy. Gives "IT" to him ya know? Maybe he wants a relationship something to settle down with and he knows that it's you that he wants to settle down with but he's not ready for that he still wants to have some fun
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