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writes:ok so there is this guy i think i like not sure if its my mind playing tricks on me but i have liked him for the whole of 2009. i dont want be with him becuz of his past and he knows this. but the physical attraction is incredibly strong between us. I took this guy to my highschool prom and kissed him on my prom night after that he fell hard for me but was still dealing with stuff from a previous relationship so i refused to get involved. well i was also dealing with stuff from a previous relationship till i found out what a jerk my ex bf is and cut off all contact from him. meanwhile the guy i took to prom still pursued me and i constantly rejected him laughed at him and turned down every advance he threw towards me driving to my house jus to hang out, picking me up and taking me places basically doing wahtever I wanted and i still told him no,ill admit i was pretty mean, back then I really just wanted him to leave me alone all this was from 2008-2009 then he called me boring in front of his friends and i admit that hurt me ALOT but i dealt with it for the most part i think. Now its 2010 this guy is doing me a HUGE personal favor and i texted him about it last week he didnt reply i went over to his house to speak to his lil bro but secretly wanted to see him. he explained he got my messgaes but was sort of busy cuz he was driving down to check out a school, basically bullshyt in my mind. So i ended up goin to the mall with them to help him pick out an outfit to go to a party that night we lost his lil bro who is 17 and he ended up going home. so i was left alone with the older one something i wanted while walking back he had his hand around me and we kissed and i enjoyed i longed for it for sooooooooooooo long.he tried to put his hand on my butt and i smacked it away and told him to go touch himself to dont touch me. this happened last week now it plays on my mind if he would brag to his friends about it but i dnt have wat ppl call a bad rep im a 20 year old virgin and this is honestly the third guy in my life that i have kissed. I jus wish his past wasnt so tainted he cheated on his ex, and everything would be ok i guess. I went over there hoping to kiss him and i did now its a week later i havent spoken to him and partly im not upset at that cuz i kno he feels like im going to treat him the way i did in 2008. I know hes bored home cuz he hits my lil sister up to hangout becuz he knows i am at work. Now i see him in church every week so not speaking to him during the week doesnt bother me. I asked him if he wanted to speak to me exclusively and he said of course and i always knew that but i wanted to hear him say it. Now the thing that is bothering me is I want to get over him but the thought of us being together has been on my mind for SO long i dont know how to.Subconsiously i feel like would hurt him. His little brother has a big mouth so I told him i am talking to someone else and I know for a fact he would tell his older bro.then we got back to the house and his lil bro was there and another guy whom we go to church with they went inside to play video games i stayed in the kitchen talkin to his mom and even his dad jus having regular conversation. The lil bro came out and said he heard his older bro was tryin to talk to me i said yup but he aint really get nowhere, he said "yo you are a good girl and i respect that" i laughed.then his older bro took me home i asked the lil bro to come becuz he also knows his older bro likes me but he doesnt want us to be together, so the other friend that was there came with us. Before the friend got in the car it was just me and him for awhile and he tried to kiss me and i declined. Then the friend got in the car and i wouldnt say he turned into an asshole cuz i could tell that he was basically talkin like that because his friend was there, nothin disrespectful jus stupid jokes. Im just so confused. How do i get rid of these feelings for him??? He always tells me im difficult what does he mean by that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): ok?.... thanks for the adivce but how exactly am i gettin involved with so many boys at once? its only one boy if u read the post correctly....N on the contrary i am not chasing anyone.... we are two people that are attracted to each other but on my part i want to stop it but its hard... I am a college student, i intern, and i work u need not work about me chasing my future
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