Why does he push me away but seem interested in our previous relationship?

A female age 41-50, *ixieGwen writes:

*sorry if your replied to me beore*Ive written before but it seems my story never ends and he's hard to fig out.Im summin it up, so u know my deal.My ex and I broke up almost 2 mo ago.He wanted 2 see/talk to me daily.Had me meet the fam/friends =they liked me.Hypothetically talked bout the future.He kept sayin how he couldnt believe how happy he was.Towards the end he had financial/work troubles - so we broke up and he claimed it was cos he was "no longer feelin it" *made no sense 2 me cos he couldnt get enough of me and had other random reasons for break up IE im not outdoorsy*.Every relationship hes been lied to/cheated on and I was bout to go on a trip for 2 wks.We've kept in contact, been intimate.Recently he tried to make me jealous sayin hes datin someone we know/cant believe how much they have in common etc.He couldnt shut up bout it.I saw him the next day and he didnt mention 1 word bout her.Instead he complimented me and had a cheshire cat grin the whole time we hung out, still has a lovey dovey keychain I gave him still in his car.Gave me a long-squeeze the life out of u hug.Recently he dropped off some art I did for him *im borrowin it*.He said he was doin a drop off but ended up stayin the whole night at the bar w/ me, despite the fact he said he was exhausted.Claims he hasnt hung out cos hes still in debt/work not goin well.I said dont worry bout the money issue - so he asked if i was free durin the wknd.Seems like our relationship always comes up *mainly him bringin it up*- he mentions how hes fickle etc and it was his doing, that our relationship ended-He doesnt believe he can change*I said he could if he tried and gave him an example*.He also mentioned that I did alot of good for him/in our relationship.That night he walked me to my car..we had a small chat followed by awkwardness - we were done speakin but neither of us walked away,just stood there..as if waiting for something.He only contacts me when theres news (like he recently got hit by a car while riding his bike).In person he seems interested in me but via txt/phone - seems like hes distancing himself *said he was awhile back*.We're supposed to hang this wknd.Im tryin to be friends w/ him cos i DO care and would hopefully like him back but am not depending on it.Why is he like this? I just dont understand him...Im not sure letting go is the answer.

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