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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hello, i know this is gonna take some time as there is quite a lot to the story, but anyway moving on. I met a boy who lives a couple of doors away from me, we became friends at the start i did really have a big crush on him and i admit it i did hound him on AIM and stuff but he didnt really mind and every couple of nights we would meet up outside his house, at this time he had a girlfriend who he was crazy in love with, about 2 weeks after meeting him i got his phone number and he invited me out to this club with him and his friends, but i wasnt allowed to go. So he started coming up to my house every single day from bout 4:30 in the afternoon till bout 1am, he also started babysitting with me. Then bout 2 months later he joined us for a family meal, on the way back to my house my dad picked up a bottle of whiskey, when we got home he gave sum to the boy and he only had a little glass, so later tht night, my mum and dad and sister had gone to bed and it was just me and him, we were in my room looking at dvds and he told me to kiss him and i sed no cos he had a gf and he sed tht he didnt anymore (but i knew tht he did) anyway i gave in and kissed and i loved it, so when he was leaving he kissed me again. For the next couple of days after tht he ignored me, didnt come to my house, didnt really speak on AIM. Then bout 2 months later i was finally allowed to go with him and his friends to a youth club, i went and i had a really good time, when we got home we had to babysit my younger sister after she had fallen asleep, me and him were sitting on the couch and a scary film came on the tv and i dont like scary films so he put his arm round me and held my hand, then we started kissing again this time though it was different cos he had split up with his girlfriend for good. so we were sitting there kissing and he told me tht he didnt want a girlfriend, he just wanted some fun, and i want to happy with this but i agreed cos i loved kissing him, so after my mum and dad came home, we carried on kissing out of the sight of my parents, and again for the next couple of days after he ignored, then when he came back to see me again he told me he had a girlfriend, i was soo upset i just wanted to cry and so then the following week he had to stay at my house for the night (in different bedrooms) and he was still going out with this other girl at this point but again we ended up kissing, this time though it was snogging and i told him tht i didnt want to just have fun i want us to be proper bf/gf he just shrugged this off. Th next day when i woke up he had already gone home, yet again he ignored me for the next couple of days. And now i really really fancy him i cnt help it i know he is using me, but when its just me and him he is soo nice to me, but when there is anyone else around he just acts silly and and now i just feel like he dont want anymore to do with me, since the last snogging sesion he aint really come back to being like my best friend. Although on two events, when drunk he has come to my bedroom window and delcared his love for me. Im so confused with this boy and it upsets me soo much. What should i do??Ps: one time i told him i thought tht his friend was fit, after i told him this he came to my house with his gf to introduce me to her and told me tht his friend (the one i thought was fit) was now doing drugs and stuff. He also gets really jealous when i mention other boys or if i talk to other boys or dance or tht, but yet its ok for him to go and snog girls in front of me, What is going on here??sorry for this being so long xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2008): Yes your post was rather long, and many of the details were irrelevant, that's why you had to wait so long for somebody to find the time to help...
Anyway in a nutshell, this guy had a girlfriend, he starts kissing you, leaves girlfriend, but he still dosen't want you, but he likes kissing you still. Then he gets a new girlfriend, still kisses you and has even introduced you to her. You like him, he likes kissing you but he dosen't want you for a girlfriend. When he is drunk he tells you he loves you. When he is sober, he kisses you and then the next day avoids you.
Your qustion was... What is going on here?? Well you said it yourself.... This boy is using you. You should tell him to take a hike and piss off.
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