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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have this one guy i have liked him so much (18yo), for 2 years this september! but early this year i gave up and went out with a guy which lasted 3 weeks. I had finally forgotten about this guy i have liked for so long and when i was dumped i was so upset!! Now im back to liking him again! But he sends me mixed messages, for example he keeps saying his going to come over (he lives an 45min drive away but has his licence) but he just never gets back to me about coming over. A few weeks ago i sent him a message and he didnt reply, then when i talked to him again online he said he'd see if he was free the following weekend but again never got back to me. I know he's shy but why does he keep not getting back to me? Am i doing something wrong? i dont want to message him again and seem desperate???thanks heaps..
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): Unfortunately, the answer to your question is in your telling us he dumped you. You were upset at the time, but instead of getting over your upset and continuing on with your life, you went back to liking him again.
I'm afraid he isn't really sending "mixed" messages. The message seems perfectly clear: he just isn't very interested - or he would not have ended it to begin with. If he regretted his decision to not see you any more, then he certainly would be making time to respond, to contact you AND see you!
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female
reader, l.via  +, writes (12 June 2007):
 I am female, so perhaps it's biased of me to answer this question, but if a guy likes you he WILL get back to you. Maybe it's time to move on? Have some recovery single time, and when you're feeling confident, happy, satisfied, and feel like you can commit some time to a relationship, try to start dating guys who are actually interested in you and form good bonds with them instead of this "shy guy" who really isn't worth your time.
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