A
female
age
51-59,
*ulie mountain mad
writes:hi everyonenew to the site and just finding my feet...Im on a mission here to bascially find advice on how to save my relationship. Im currently totally confused and feel im drifting more and more on a daily basis to losing my partner who i love deeply.The main reason being my total insecurities in regards to my partners constant emotional involvement with other women.Since i met him he has constantly had some form of communication with other girls - mainly via facebook, MSN or texting. At first i thought i could handle his so called friends but the whole issue is making me so ill. We have talked an awful lot about the situation and he has promised to curb it in which he has slightly. However there is still some form of communication with girls on a daily basis.My partner does prefer female companionship to males. He is doing his best to convince me that they are all just friends. But i cant help wonder why he feels the need to contact these people. Is the whole thing jealousy, emotional deprivation or basically im i just being greedy. He is finding my emotions hard to handle at the moment we are both seeking to find answers to combat the prob...The whole thing has been draining for both of us. Im currently feeling very unloved even though he tells me often enough. Just wondering if any others have been through similar experiences and have any adviceCheersJulie
View related questions:
facebook, jealous, msn, text, unloved Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, julie mountain mad +, writes (23 March 2010):
julie mountain mad is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for your replies... i have taken a lot onboard and my paetner and i are still very much in discussions about the whole thing... My partner still has frequent contact with girls but he reasures me that there is nothing going on... he has admitted to flirting sexually with one girl a long while ago and i do believe that this has stopped... i am still however trying to heal over the hurt because of this and still at times want to run away and end it all... im still currently on the sick because of all this - ive also lost some of my good friends because they have tried turn me against him... at the moment im very confused and completly drained...just taking one day at a time. my partner is being very supportive and knows how close he is to losing me... just want to know when it will all end... my emotions are in shreds at the moment...
A
female
reader, AuntyEm +, writes (20 March 2010):
 The bare facts are
* He isnt going to ever stop speaking to these women
* You cannot and won't ever handle it.
If he was doing this when you met him, one would ask why you got into the relationship, but I understand that sometimes people think they can change their partners behaviour., but sadly people don't change.
His behaviour is not conducive to a happy secure and loving relationship and he just cannot and will not see it because he will put his needs above yours. He knows its making you ill and he has not stopped.
Hate to say it but maybe it's time to quit and save your sanity.
...............................
A
female
reader, Entirely Unique +, writes (20 March 2010):
 From the way you've explained it, it seems to me that its more an issue with you feeling insecure and jealous than an issue of him actually doing anything wrong regarding these women.
As you've said he prefers female friends to male ones but at the same time I don't see why his contact is so regular, sure he should keep contact with friends and being in a relationship shouldn't stop or change that but at the same time daily does seem alot in my opinion.
Are these girls actually real friends of his or just girls he chats to via these forms of contact you listed?
...............................
|
