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writes:Hi, iv been dating my guy for almost 9 months, we have always been very close but one time when i went to his house to visit we where in his room then he left the room and i noticed his pc was on so i moved the mouse the screen saver shut off and i noticed there was all this porn on the screen, so i had alook around his pc and noticed he looks at it alot, anyway i dont really care that much but im worried does this mean he is not happy with our sex? or does he think im ugly? i just have no idea this is my first serious relationship and i was a virgin b4 i meet this guy, im just confused on why he looks at it, can guys give me an insight on why guys look at it? cause i looked at it and it was totally gross and i just dont get it, so im worried its me! help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2006): Porn is an addiction, regardless how much he enjoys sex with you on how beautiful he thinks you are, he will still be addicted to it. Once you get hooked it is hard to stop. I know for one because I was addicted to porn and I still catch my self watching it once in a while. It is not really something you can just tell him to stop. it takes time. Don't worry, He still thinks you are beautiful."Quite often after a guy has viewed porn and shot his load he will be either a) disgusted by the porn or b) totally disinterested in the porn... Until the next day, when his sexual desires have returned." that quote was taken from the top and from experince. it is true. if you want him to stop then talk to him about it and atleast get him to try and stop. if you see him looking at it once or twice then do not worry about it(aslong as it is not a day apart). It is something you have to work on.
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reader, d4u04  +, writes (12 March 2006):
 as probably 1 of the few men who doesnt get porn i agree that i cnt see the attraction with it, but having a few boys in the family i've come 2 know why. It doesn't mean he doesn't fancy you or that he's unhappy with sex, it's just something men feel the need to do so they can masturbate privately and not feel as inhibited, for lack of a better term, at they would with a partner, because partners judge, pictures or videos don't
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you harshbutfair , i think i understand what you mean, so i read up a little on how men and womens brains work , i guess we all think different and some people need images to get off and some dont, i guess its not that much different to thinking of a naughty fantasy up in your head instead its just downloading it onto a screen, its all just a image to help use release the sexual thoughs we have or to help feel relaxed. i am a little suprised from reading alot of the posts on this site about all the women who are lied to from there b/f's or husbands about there porn viewing, its sad and i really feel sorry for them, so what does it mean when a guy lies to there loved ones about looking at it even when there loved ones know about it and have confronted them? does this mean the guy is unhappy or r they just ashamed or worried they will hurt someone or loose there loved ones if they admit the truth? or does the person looking at the porn not even realise that they are doing anything wrong because they think its natural? im so confused now, i did not realise this was such a wide spread problem, i guess now that the internet is cheaper and faster ,porn has become more accessible, and sometimes i wonder, what would life be like for the women who are hurt from there loved ones looking at porn if the internet had never had been invented? i wonder about all the familys that would be still together and i think about how all the women would be more confident and happy, i also wonder about what if the audience for porn was more for women, i wonder what the male's would do and how they would feel, actually if there is a guy out there who reads this and has been hurt from there wife or g/f from looking at porn i would be very intrested in reading in how you deal wit it and what you think.sorry this is so long, im just really amazed and intrested in this subject matter ever since visiting this site, it has opened my eyes alot. i dont have anything against pepople who watch porn , but im not intrested in it i watched it once and it does nothing for me, but im intrested in why people watch it mostly men who are in relationships and why do men lie about watching it? im i just asking questions that women will never get answers too? or is it just to do with the individual?
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (5 March 2006):
 To the chick who asked this question. Porn does something different to a guy's brain than to a girl's. It releases a FLOOD of chemicals that tell the guy "get a hardon", "become aroused" - and that *high* can become addictive. Plus, it then lets them jerk off and get relaxed. Girls will never experience the same rush that most guys get, so it is very different to understand.
Quite often after a guy has viewed porn and shot his load he will be either a) disgusted by the porn or b) totally disinterested in the porn... Until the next day, when his sexual desires have returned.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (5 March 2006):
 I am not a guy, but I can tell you why I have used porn in the past. It was to turn me on so I could get a sexual release. I would think that you average person uses it in this way also. It is normal if the people involved in using it are consenting.
Hope this provides a little of the answers you are looking for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni just wanna know why guys look at it? is it cause there not happy with there sex life or their partner? im just confused i just want an insight on why they look at it, im not really worried that he looks at it ,i just want to know why they look at?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2006): I was really bothered when my b/f looked at porn. I confronted him about it and decided to watch it together. It helps me to not feel undesirable to him and gives us ideas to make our sex life better.
I didn't see where he was attracted to the TV but rather just the opposite, he was more attracted to me.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (3 March 2006):
 Martini will no doubt cut and paste his answer in for you,(go for it martini just one more time!!) so I will just say that some women have a problem with there men looking at porn and some dont, it is apparantly normal for blokes to look at porn but the ammount they look at and the content varies, some women look at porn and im not adverse to a kinky story, it is what turns you on and brings you sexual gratification I guess.
You need to decide just how bothered you are and think about why, everyone has a different opinion on this so good luck and try and stay with the "not bothered" attitude if possible.
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