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writes:I really like this guy who I am friends with but hes not interested in me. Ive twice slept with him in the past but he made it clear he did not want a relationship so I left it at that but I stayed friends with him as we got on so well. Ive noticed that he never has long relationships in the past, he always has flings with girls and one night stands but never has girlfriends. I think that this is down to the fact that he has been very hurt in his last and only relationship, 7 years ago, and it destroyed him. However, he is now in his mid 30's with no intention of settling down. Also, I know it sounds weird, but hes told me im too pretty for him to be with. Im a model but Ive told him it doesnt make any difference. The girls he always goes home with are not to his taste and I know this but he says he feels comfortable with more plainer looking girls because he knows they would not be taken off him (which is what happened in his last relationship). Ive even thought about giving up modelling to be with him. Hes so cold towards me intimately i.e. he wont even friendly hug me even in bed he hardly touched me. But when I see him with these one night stand girls hes all over them. I dont understand. We get on so well as mates. Now Im thinking about leaving it all. I want him so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts not that Im too attractive, its just that he says he feels more comfortable with girls less attractive becasue they are less likely to cheat in a realtionship which is what happened the last time. I admit, I do get alot of male attanetion and he probably sees that but I just want him to see that if I was with him then none of that would matter but it just seems that I dont get a chance because of what happened in the past and he just wants to have one night stands and little flings with girls who probably wont or dont get alot of male attention because he knows that they are not about to run off with someone else. He's just instantly judged me that I would probably hurt him so I dont get a chance. Or, he may not even fancy me but I find that hard to believe if we have had sex twice and get on really great as mates.
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reader, boo22 +, writes (29 July 2009):
 You can't make him want you, nobody can. Evan Halle Berry has been cheated on so i reckon looks have nothing to do with anything. Why do you want to give up your job for someone who is so cold to you? I feel only a girl who didn't like herself too much would be trying to throw herself into a scenario that causes pain. Stop looking at how to change him and look at changing yourself. You should be with a guy who makes you feel great about yourself.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Sweetie Pie this relationship is never going to get off the ground. Stay friends but I think you need to accept that it will never be more.
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