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writes:I found pictures of my boyfriend with his ex gf in a drawer. They were romantic pictures of them at a beach. Is he not over her? Does he look back at those times and reflect on them as good times? Why would he keep those pictures though they broke up over 4 years ago and we've been together for almost 2? He also has their prom picture in a frame in that drawer.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (26 June 2010):
 It's his life. He's entitled to keep the memories, I'm sure many of them are good.You can't expect someone to delete a whole chunk of their past. I have photos from my whole life, many with past partners because they were who I was at the time. I would absolutely refuse to delete photos if asked by my partner. But then I'd expect her to have photos too, and I'd have no problem with that at all. She's entitled to her memories, as I am entitled to mine.But now he's with you. Unless you have any reason to suspect anything is still going on between them, then you have to trust him. It sounds like you might be experiencing some jealousy. The photos are a trigger, but the real cause is elsewhere. It might be something not right in your relationship, or it could just be an insecurity in you that's nothing to do with him. I suggest overlooking the photos and reflecting on yourself and where these feelings might be coming from.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 June 2010):
 No it does not mean he isn't over her. I don't know if he looks back and reflects on the memories as good times, but I assume he does. We all do. Don't try to tell me you never looked back on your life remembering the good times. So his life with the ex wasn't a complete hell, so he had some good times with her. He's allowed to reminisce. It was 4 years ago. 2 years he spent alone. 2 years he spent with you. Why do you get intimidated by some pictures?
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reader, yag  +, writes (26 June 2010):
if you have been with someone for a long time it is hard just to throw everything away.don't think of it like he is missing her etc, think of it that he is just keeping them maybe just because he can't throw them away.many people keep pictures of past relationships just because they like to look back.it's like keeping a picture from your childhood, just looking back perhaps?
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reader, iloveyhoo +, writes (26 June 2010):
 Either he still has feelings for her.. or he just likes having pictures of memories, and that was an unconvienent time for you to go through that drawer and only find those pictures.. if you ask him, he mightt be offended you went through his drawers, so maybe when your next there you should "joke" about and go and open the drawer and be like whats in here ??
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