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writes:me and my boyfriend are pretty much finished, after 9 months of love, and 3 months of falling out. the falling out is on his part, as i've fought to keep us together. He's the kind of sensitive type who keeps it all in, and im wondering, we're not together anymore, why does he feel the need to give me an explaination as to why he's been letting me down. if he cant do what i asked, like, why bother giving me the excuse or reason? if he didn't care, wouldnt he just say, "sorry, busy" instead of "sorry, im busy, working all weekend", like giving me a reason. is it because he still cares? Reply to this Question
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (24 April 2008):
 That is the problem when you don't have all the answers, you start to over analyze every thing that is said. For your own good, just try to let it go. I know this is easier said than done but you can not analyze anyone elses behavior or words.Take care of you. I am sorry you are going through this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni probably am reading into his responses to me. i so badly wish things would go back to what they were. he's always had an excuse for everything. but it's always been an excuse directed to me. so far, he hasn't done anything to show me he still cares, so i guess i've been looking for anything that would show me that he still cared but... im just reading into it i guess. thank you.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (21 April 2008):
It could have to do with the caring level but it could also have to do with guilt. Sometimes when people don't want to do things they give a reason but the overdo the reason out of guilt.
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (21 April 2008):
 From what you say, you are trying to read more into his words and actions than is probably in them. There is a difference between "caring" (not wanting to hurt you more than he has to) and "loving", wanting to be part of you. "Caring" is not enough - not the basis for a proper relationship unless there is something more. Many people care about each other even after a relationship has finished.
Tell him you do care for him, then try to move on.
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