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writes:I'm finding it hard to get over a guy i had a fling with for few months. he was so disrespectful he talks to me like shit, he shit about me to his friends and his family. I saw his mum and sister standing in their house talking and when they saw me walking on the other side of road where my best friend lives, they stopped talking and just stared at me. I've never met his family, he used me for sex when i wanted more from the relationship, including respect. i dont no why he hates me so much now he's gone off with someone else plz help
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): He does, because he can.
Abusers only need one thing: Willing prey.
The way others treat us is one hundred percent their fault. It is never yours.
Rather than think of his treatment, think of treating yourself the way you need. What do you need? Give it to you -
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reader, sophieee +, writes (7 August 2010):
i think that you should try your best to forget about him and move on, any girl deserves to be treated with respect, so more fool him. just ignore him and find someone who does treat you with respect. dont let him see it bothers you.
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reader, marry35  +, writes (7 August 2010):
Men are a box of surprises, they also make promises they wont do, just to have what they want from you, almost all of them just think about themselves, well there are also women like that, but is more common to see it on a men. He only used you, so keep going and ignore people. He is a men that doesn't know how to respect women. Maybe he thinks that if a women have sex with him without a relationship, he should not respect her, which is wrong, because having sex involves two people. My boyfriend left me after my abortion, my abortion was in part of medical problems, but also he didn't want the baby, but he told me he wanted to be with me and be supportive, he left me sending me a text message, i told him he was a liar and a coward, he deleted me from his profile friends, it hurts a lot but we need to have the force to keep going...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): He doesn't "hate" you...he was just being a jerk like so many other guys (women included). This guy never wanted a relationship to begin with and you probably didn't realize this fact until you have given "it" up to him. Obviously this guy doesn't have any moral values or home training, therefore he wasn't relationship material. You haven't "lost" anything, so take the time needed to release this guy on a emotional level out of your system, do not contact him, and if he contacts you DON'T ANSWER. If you have to change your number, put him on your email blocklist..then DO IT. The less contact you have with him, the better.
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reader, LiziJenks +, writes (6 August 2010):
He is obviously someone who is not worth getting upset over, espiecally if he has got his family involved even though it is none of there buisness. He is obviously also someone who is not worth worrying yourself over, boys who use girls for sex are worth nothing and need to just be ignored. Dont worry if he hates you or not, you have done nothing wrong and remember that, i would move on and find someone who respects you and wants the same as you. One day he will probably come crawling back and when he does remind him how much he hurt you! good luckk x
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