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30-35,
*ustlosingitnow
writes:I never really understand my boyfriend he criticize my past a lot. I only really been out with like 2 guys in my life excluding him and he always seems to find a way to make me feel bad. He always mentions that he can't believe those are the guys I went out with and uses sarcastic remarks like, "But that's okay those are the kind of guys you would have end up with or those are the kind of guys you like don't you?" I mean, I'm young, and make mistakes, but its not like I'm The only person in the world to do so, I'm only human...sure the guys in my past were rotten to me and were going no where in life. Did he think I didn't know that already? I made mistakes. Hes a very smart and sweet guy but at times I don't understand how someone can be such a sweetheart and yet make me feel like this thing to make criticism and joke about. He's a great guy when it comes to being a significant other, but every little thing about us makes us opposites. The music we listen to, the food we eat, our ethnicity, different. How is it that not only does he criticize my past,but however my opposite characteristics to him as well. Characteristics that makes me...me? Why does he always criticize me? Reply to this Question
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reader, HartBreak-Avenger +, writes (20 December 2010):
 I have your answer. See I did the same thing to my ex, a gorgeous but very dull and dumb gal that had a very promiscuous past. She has had disfunctional rships with guys all her life and still does, she would either pursue a guy or get picked up by some guy rather quickly, have sex with them (rather quickly), then either wks or a couple of months later usually they would dump her because she was boring and predictable, void of common sense! Anyways, I remember criticizing her rather harshly for acting like a tramp in the past and getting a stupid 'tramp stamp' above her ass, which hurt me. See what your bf is experiencing is pain, pain that you had chosen to be with those misfits in your past and hadn't been with him instead, yes I know it sounds totally illogical and plain crazy, but us guys can become quite so when our hearts get involved and we care about someone quite seriously. Anyways, I just broke up w her for the 2nd time, this time was totally awful, we both hurt each other so bad and I doubt there will be a 3rd time. I really said hurtful things to her, without profanity, I only spoke the truth with some outlandish comments about the guy she's with now. Hope this helped
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reader, IsabelRed  +, writes (20 December 2010):
Take your time to undertand him completely and his criticism. Ask him about his intentions and keep a clear communication. I think there could be two positive reasons for this sort of criticism, first- maybe because he's insecure on his part in the relationship that's why keeps on criticising you or may be he thinks you need to understand your worth. I mean if you mention that your ex's were rotten, then probably he would feel low, to think, ''how come you went out with them?'' But don't make this an issue sweetheart. This can be good for you, and your relationship, if you really like the guy or want a serious relationship with him. I am sure a litte confessions and communication can help it a lot. Good bless!
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