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writes:Could anyone shed light on why a man at work acts as if I am about to pounce on him and cannot get away quick enough from me, whereas previously he seemed at ease and friendly? He almost backs out of my room if he has to see me for anything and seems to be avoiding me. It almost seems to take his breath away, as if he is under water and cannot breath. I have not to my knowledge done anything to deserve it or have a reputation for chasing men. If anything, he chats women up all the time, doesn't get anywhere, but this man doesn't have great looks. I am attracted to him anyway, which is why his reaction bothers me, but I am going through a relationship break-up and it is too soon for another one, but I am puzzled as to why this man is acting strangely and at the same time, has asked me if I am chasing him when I have only seen him for business reasons and nothing manufactured.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2006): Sounds as if you are experiencing quite a bit of trauma right now - going through a break-up and attracted to this man at the same time. Its possible that you - without realizing it and not intentionally - are coming across as a bit nervous, unhappy, or perhaps a little intense, and he's picking up on those vibes. You did say he actually asked if you were chasing him, correct?
He may have gotten scared off. Better to deal with the break-up and get your feelings sorted out over that relationship, and get to the point where you feel more relaxed about your life in general. That's for your own well-being.
As for his attitude toward you, there really isn't much you can do about it. MAYBE when you are feeling happier and more calm, he will relax also.
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