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writes:Why is it that people want me to listen to their life stories constantly (females especially), but when it comes to me, everyone just thinks of it as annoying. Is there a limit on how much you should talk to yourself? I know that my aspiration to talk is what has caused several relationship problems, but I just cant help it. Im a person who loves to talk, especailly about life. Thats why I listen to others because it makes me so interested.But why does it seem like im the only one? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (8 July 2011):
 Think about this...In a conversation the one with power is not the person doing the talking but the person who is listening...I prefer to listen, I learn more about people from listening to them and asking them questions.
Sometimes people talk about themselves because the other person isn't contributing much to the conversation so they don't want to experience an embarassing conversational gap.
On the other hand next time someone is talking on and on about themselves, let them but drop in some lines about yourself. That might make the other person want to ask you something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2011): A man who is a good listener is hard to find so they are probably taking advantage of the situation! But if they won't listen back, remind yourself that:
A man who is a good listener is hard to find! and move on to another one.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (8 July 2011):
 It's hard to say why people are finding your stories annoying when you haven't heard them. However I personally find people who go on and on about themselves so boring. I love to talk too but have learned to button my lip and only talk when what I have to say is relevant to the topic and called for. I hope this helps
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