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writes:Sorry-it’s a bit of a long story. It started 3 years ago-me and my boyfriend had a physical fight and I had bruises, a few days after that I started seeing him in places he shouldn’t have been-like near my mum's when I never took him there I kept seeing the same people on the street too and the same cars driving by again and again, some of these people were his friends, others I didn't know-anyway I started being more vigilant and it turned out that I was being followed,24/7 by him and his associates, they were also taking it in turns to park outside my house and watch it. I couldn’t think what they could possibly want but as they seemed to want me to know I was being watched I thought it was some sort of scare tactic to make sure I didn't report him-anyway, that theory got blown out of the water cos they've never stopped, even now-I thought they were maybe trying to scare me into working for them as a prostitute as my boyfriend kept dropping hints-for instance he told me there was money in prostitution and he staged some fake phone call in front of me pretending to talk to some pimp friend about the woman he was selling(this was just for my benefit though, as I couldn't hear anyone on the other end of the phone, despite the fact that I was standing quite close.)Anyway I thought they were trying to frighten me, then it would only be a matter of time before he asked me to work. I did just wonder if they could all just be some depraved bunch of weirdos that spend all their free time stalking someone cos they enjoy it, but now I think there has to be a purpose cos last night I confronted my boyfriend about it and he said if I ever brought it up again he would do me some serious damage-why would he threaten me unless he's hiding something-if he was some mental case who just liked stalking me he wouldn't bother lying about it, would he? By the way he isn't obsessed with me-aside from when I see him following me we only see each other once every couple of weeks. What do you think is going on-I NEED to know it's too weird and it's driving me insane, please don't just say report it cos I have barely any evidence
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reader, Perspicacious +, writes (28 August 2009):
This sounds like a really unhealthy relationship, and one you would be well advised to get out of.He sounds like he is abusive and controlling. Many people who are need to feel like they "own" their partner, which can mean (amongst other things) needing to know what they are doing every minute of the day.Whatever the reason he is doing this, it is wrong. It is not going to get better, and if you continue with this boyfriend it could get a lot worse.You may not have much "evidence" but I would also advise contacting the police anyway. At the very least, if they are aware of the situation they will react faster should something happen that means you need their help in the future.Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): hello. your boyfriend is clearly very obsessive of you, and to threaten you in the way he did is wrong. this man doesnt sound like a nice person, he is obviously mixed up in illegal things and this could land you in trouble one day. also, for you to even think that he could be considering asking you to work as a prostitute for him suggests that he does not respect you at all! and you should be with someone who DOES loves and respect you, you deserve so much better. despite you saying you dont have much evidence, i think you should still go to the police. writing to an agony aunt site is a good start, but the police can give you more advice on how you can stop this weird behaviour. if you need help with the police issue, go on the local police's website for your area and im sure it will give you some guidance. hope this helps. AAJ.
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