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*saacdeese
writes:I have met a woman and we fell for each other pretty hard I know it was wrong, but it's what happened. She had him move out and we started dating. This was definitely more than a fling. I have never connected with anybody like this before. We have all the same goals in life, as well as the same hobbies. We shared a great deal of time together. I fell for her daugther who is 4. During those times she really opened up, told me she hasnt loved her husband in 3 years, not sexually attracted to him anymore, they don't communicate for crap. In the end she is back with him trying to see if there is anything left to work on. I know there are other girls out there, trust me I encounter them on a daily basis. I just can't get myself to do anything with any of them. I love this girl a lot, and I finally told her I gotta move forward, not to call me or text me, unless she is divorced. So far I havent looked back, the way I figure we would only have a chance of working out if she was divorced. I guess I just need some help with this. I know what we did was wrong but I cant change it. I want to just give this to God and move on but its a lot easier said than done. Do they have a shot of working out?
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reader, isaacdeese +, writes (9 June 2010):
isaacdeese is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYa I have been going strong now for about 14 days. Just working a lot and working out a ton. I guess I just really miss her, but who am I do dictate whats going to happen. Who is anybody. My heart feels for her, even though we did wrong It fealt very right between the two of us. I plan on just to keep on praying and having faith. Who knows what will come of all this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): Isaac i know you are hurting but you need to RESPECT MARRIAGES yourself. I have read ALL your posts about your affair with this married woman. please respect her decision to make her marriage work. please do not interfere in her marriage and please cut all contact (which you say you have). marriage is not easy and the fact that you were sleeping with this mans wife does not give you the right too dictate what she does.
i am curious though: what do you expect if and when you do get her to divorce her husband. when times are tough with you two, what would she do? run to another man for sex? she did it once with you, what stops her from cheating ON YOU.
people need to work on any relationship. it is very hard. marriage is an eye opener. so instead of seeking sexual gratification elsewhere (with you in this instance) the married person needs to make a decision whther to divorce before replacing their spouse in their bed.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 June 2010):
Guilt, low self esteem, she still loves him. Those are just for starters. Basically, she used you to prop her marriage up. Now she's decided that it's better for her to try and make it work. You made the right choice in stopping contact though, because yes, they do stand a chance. The affair made her realize that she has a lot to lose, and she's going to fight for it first, which may well work. Continue to move on.
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