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anonymous
writes:I love my girlfriend. but sometime she can be a bitch. when she is watching TV she cant listen at all. if her parents are talking she tells them "shutup! im watching tv" and turns the tv up louder. when i try to tell her something she just puts her index finger up and keeps watching tv, and then once whatever she was watching goes to commercial or something she asks what i was trying to tell her. by the way....... she has TiVo. this gets me really mad, i mean why cant she just pause it? some other things that she does is if i tickle her feet or something she get very mad. and she expects to tickle me and for me to not get mad at her. if i do get mad she gets upset and gets mad at me for that. while she is mad i try to kiss her and she will turn her head away from me with her arms crossed. it seems like if SHE does something it's okay, but when I do something SHE gets mad over it.we are both 18 and just finished high school. been dating for just about a year now, this has been going on since the second month of our relationship.i've been thinking about breaking up with her for a few weeks now because it seems that i can have a happier life without her. i DO love her, but sometimes her attitude and disrespect for her parents makes me think twice. it seems like she thinks the world revolves around her.please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): Well your going to have to realise that attempting to mold her into a different person is going to take allot of effort, on your behalf.
I think you should definately talk to her about it, tell her how you feel give her examples of her behaviour. Maybe if your really devoted record her she might just think to herself 'there is no way i acted like that' it might just shock her into realisation.
On the other hand why have you been with her for 10 months when she has been acting like this? you should have talked to her earlier and explained that you dont like this behaviour. Now its just going to be harder for both of you, because she feels that her behaviour towards you is ok.
I think you should talk to her, see what she says if not. Think it all over once more and if your positive go on and dump her, she doesnt deserve a guy like you. Thats a hell of allot of loyalty to stick to a woman like that for 10 months...
Above all... dont go and talk to her parents about it. That has to be the dumbest idea in the world. Seriously if her parents failed at raising her with the proper respect and manners, what makes you think they are going to be of any help now? they wont know what to do, and most likely if they are anything like their daughter get mad at you. They will think that your trying to tell them how to raise their child.. or how she should have been raised....its a waste of time
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010): Ohwell do what you have to do.. she does sound like a brat/bitch!! and if you dont feel ok or loved why be in the relationship, thts juts stupid.
You know your answer to your question... why come to us?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010): Well I'm guessing her parents haven't taught her respect when she was growing up.
You should sit down with her and discuss about her being rude to you and her parents. Tell her you do love her, but she gets out of hand sometimes. If she still continues to be rude to you and her parents then maybe you should talk to her parents alone about teaching her to have a little respect towards them and you. If she still continues to act that way, then what I would have done if I was a boy is break up with her, maybe it will teach her a lesson and she'll realize that she needs clean up her act.
I hope that helped and I wish you luck! (:
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 June 2010):
 You are wiser than you give credit for. You spotted how she treats her parents, and you SHOULD think twice, and three times, and several times over. She *will* treat you that way and worse if you got more serious with her. You're starting to experience this with her now.
She will not change for you. Don't think for a second that she'll mistreat her parents, disrespect you, and then all of a sudden transform into this loving woman who makes you feel like a million bucks.
You have a brain on your shoulders. I would suggest that you switch primary control from your heart (and possibly somewhere else ;)) to your brain and break up with her. You are a keeper, and you deserve a girl who will love you back and treat you with the same respect you treat her. Don't wait to do this. Cut your losses and get on with your life.
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