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writes:Why is it we find it so hard to move on after ending a relationship, even though we know they aren't the right person for you so you call a halt to it.I'm curious, as i ended a rollercoaster relationship of a yr and a half back in january. I dont regret it at all. Not one little bit, and a part of me is actually excited about the future. Ive even got a date lined up for this coming saturday.But my ex still txt and i reply. I dont wish to spend time with him in person, we managed the mates thing after january because our children got on, but we rowed in person a couple of weeks ago, and thats when i decided we cant even do the friends bit now. So why do i still respond if he txt?We got into a blame txt argument last night and i told him what my mum had said about him, which he asked me anyway, she would rather i didn't respond to him. And he likes to try telling me my family think im nuts and thought he was great. Which is another reason my mum wants me to steer clear. In the end he said he wont txt me again unless i txt him first, and of course he knows i wont. And i wont! In all he annoys me and refuses to see anything wrong in himself. Ive finally given up trying and told him that as nicely as i could.I'm looking forward to my date on saturday and me and the guy have been txting all week. But why do some people find it hard to move on from someone even when we know it wasn't meant to be and they annoy the hell out of us?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks star. All sounded brilliant xxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Star_07  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 Well, for one, you havent stopped communicating with him, so all that annoys you is still around you!! So stop talking to him all together, that would help!!But even when you do cut the communication, it is still hard to move on. With the exception of a healthy relationship and nice break-up, every relationship adds experience and a lot of times, baggage!I have been away from my ex for almost 3 years and currently with a great guy but I still carry this baggage with me. I think its because sometimes you are damaged from the relationship and other times you haven't had closure. You are still in an endless argument with him and haven't proved your point. He still doesnt get it! Even when you are completely away from him and not talking to him, there are still so many things you would like to say because we need closure!!!!You need to make your own path, move on, and know that he will have life lessons just as you will. Problems seems to reappear in new relationships so I would worry about working on yourself and if he doesnt work on himself then he will just keep repeating the same mistakes he made with you! So, the most important thing for you is to focus on you! Try to let go of any hostility you feel for him..and if he makes you angry then stop talking to him!!!Good luck with your date!
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