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writes: this is more complaining than anything else..its an observation i have made..i have some friends with boyfriends who i would say are the type you would have really absolutely and positvely nothing to worry about..and the thought wouldn't even cross your mind about them doing something wrong such as cheating/flirting/emotional cheating/drinking...i wouldn't describe them as super good looking or even having that outgoing personality or the type with the ability to even go somewhere and pick up a girl. They don't even like alcohol.But I find it odd and even somewhat annoying when my girlfriends will joke around in front of their boyfriend about how their boyfriend finds this hostess at a restaurant so cute or they even say to him go work at a bar and flirt and get tips and giggle about it. It almost makes me think they want to appear like the ultra "cool" girlfriend. So ok with everything and not jealous at all.But in my mind--if their boyfriend was the outgoing type, able to flirt, liked going out to bars every week WITHOUT them--their tune would change. I even noticed it changing just one time when her boyfriend wasn't picking up which never ever happened. It actually kind of annoys me they are trying to appear like the super laid back girlfriend but i know them well enough to know if the boyfriends had different personalities---they would not find their boyfriend thinking the hostess is super hot funny or they would not suggest to their boyfriend to work at a bar and flirt.So why do girls do this? to appear one way when they aren't? I have noticed this for a long time and it makes me feel like it is all fake when someone does this particularly with the boyfriends they have.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (3 August 2010):
 They're trying to seem more cool, more trusting, more open, more relaxed than they really are deep inside because they know they can trust their guys enough not to actually cheat. You can joke about drugs as long as your guy isn't doing any. You can joke about alcoholism as long as he's not a drunk. You can joke about just about anything as long as it's just a joke. So they are making light of cheating and flirting because their boyfriends never would. And that's good.
Now imagine if they were constantly jealous and making accusation and getting angry at their guys for looking at other women (even when the boyfriends weren't actually looking). Wouldn't that be seen as paranoid and controlling?
Be happy for your friends that they've found such trustworthy men that they're ABLE to so casually talk about other girls without needing to worry. You're friends are fortunate.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (3 August 2010):
 "It actually kind of annoys me they are trying to appear like the super laid back girlfriend but i know them well enough to know if the boyfriends had different personalities"
No offense, but their boyfriends don't have different personalities and you don't know your girlfriends better than they know themselves... So the real question is why are you so concerned with a hypothetical scenario? And the super laid back girlfriend, (to me atleast) is like the holy grail of girlfriends... so don't bag them because you aren't one.
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