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writes: I really hope I do not come off as rude or judgmental or annoying But I am curious, as to why some shy guys give off the impression that they are mean or do not like you (I'm sorry I don't really know how to word what I am trying to ask) But its confusing a little and I'd like to understand a little bit better that's all.Like today my crush's brother was talking to a dude that I knew. As soon as I came to talk to the dude that I knew, my crush's brother turned his head from my direction immediately and kinda raised his eye brow a little like he was annoyed with me or did not want me around.The first time we met he talked to me but did not look at me at all, though when I say 'sup' he says 'sup' back(he still avoids eye contact). He does this all the time. In public I don't make a big deal out of it though but in my head I'm like :( "He no like me"And when I sat next to my crush today(which took a lot haha) He was a little bit more responsive than I thought he'd be, though most of his responses were shrugs. But(to make sure I wasn't making him uncomfortable) I asked him if he minded if I hung out with him a bit and he nodded :(I told him that I was sorry and didn't mean to bother him and left and he smiled (chuckled a little) and said "you're good" He smiles a lot sometimes though whenever I say hi or bye(which makes me kinda happy) So, according to my friend's who know my crush and his brother well, their entire family(besides the sister) is horribly shy and told me that my crush saying that he minded didn't mean that he didn't like me and to keep trying.I don't know if I should though...(what do you all think)And like...when you just meet a guy(because I just met his brother, see? I do not know him well) and he doesn't make eye contact with you at all and ignores you does that mean that he doesn't like you or is it that he is that shy.
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reader, Uncle PJ  +, writes (23 March 2012):
 The brother may or may not like you. It could be that he doesn't like you or it could be that he is a slight crush on you and resents you for liking his brother (if he knows you have a crush on him).
Being a shy guy myself, when it comes to girls, I'll try to offer an insight into what goes on in our minds. If we develop a crush on a girl, we usually believe that she's out of our league to avoid any disappointment.
Whenever the crush says hi or acknowledges us, we feel really happy about this and automatically become nervous around them. This could make us react in two ways, we either become really flirtatious which we feel over the top because we will compliment you ten fold. Or we will be slightly rude but not meaning to be hurtful.
The reason we do this is because we fear rejection. So if we make a move and this happens, it kinda demoralises us. So we 'stupidly' feel that if we distance ourselves from you or make this distance happen accidentally, we don't have to worry about this rejection.
I realise that this puts you in a position where you have no idea what is going on because of the mixed signals we give out. It may be best to confront him and tell how you feel about him, this may make him realise that he does indeed have a chance and therefore has no need to fear rejection.
I hope this insight is helpful, or even eye-opening. I wish you luck with your crush and hope that things work out for you.
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