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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 October 2012):
 Not all do. And some do about some exes.
I have 3 exes - two I actually still talk to on rare occasion the third was a total douche. I was more mad at myself for falling for such a loser then I was with what he did to me. Though these days I really don't think about it.
For some it's a coping mechanism. Others it's just pure denial.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 October 2012):
 Not all people do.
Those that do would fall into two groups
those that talk bad about them by either telling lies or just trying to generally "trash talk" them because they are angry and/or hurt by the ex--these are usually the ones that were left
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those that talk bad about them in terms of the bad things they did when they were together who are not done processing the bad stuff.... these are usually the ones that do the leaving...
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (12 October 2012):
Realistically speaking, people generally talk more about Bad experiences rather than the good times. If we go to a bad diner, we complain and tell our friends. If it was a good diner, we would be happy and maybe bring up the topic once in the future. I guess it is just people's nature. More than often many people are affected with bad experiences with their ex, but their reasons for talking bad about their ex's are their own and can vary. When my breakup was fresh I did talk bad but months later I moved on, and I don't care about it anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2012): Usually if things ended on bad terms (which is usually), one or both people involved can feel bitter, angry and hurt towards the other. Generally, once a person gets over the emotional stage of a break-up, they learn to accept it and move one with no hard feelings towards each other (sometimes).
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2012): simple.....personal circumstances.
I do it because my ex cheated several times.
Others do it because their ex's dumped them or didnt want them and its all jealousy related.
Others do it if their ex hounds them when its not wanted.
Lots and lots of reasons.
Its a part of life to gripe over anything that has upset you in life including ex's.
If you have an issue with someone moaning over their ex, then either put up or shut up because its a part of life everyone does it, and if you havnt already (if your that lucky in love) then you might do one day. People in this day and age do not have the same moral values towards relationships that they used to have years ago. People are more promiscuous which is the main root of relationship problems i think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2012): Maybe its their way of getting even... I've done it before. It isn't a good thing, I know. But different people have different opinions.
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reader, Bria101 +, writes (11 October 2012):
 You know I have always wondered the same thing..
I don't see the use in it..even if whatever you say about them is warranted, if your past experiences have been painful, I just think that coming out of a failed r.ship, it's better to remember that despite the bad things, there were some good times...it just seems more mature to me than to waste time trashing your ex.
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