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writes: Ok so im 14 and this year I went to a school with like fifty kids . Because there were so little kids, it was natural that nobody had a crush on me. I went to a huge school in seventh grade and nobody not guys or girls thought i was even a little good looking. Even people out of the school. But since its summer I am spending time in public places tgat have lots of people and for some reason suddenly guys left and right are winking catcalling flirting and stuff. Anywhere from younger than me to like probably five years older. I have short hair and acne and I am skinny in an unattractive way ( im naturally thin btw) and I don't know why all of the sudden people are hitting on me its not just guys its girls too ( I don't mind tge girls as much) but for the most part I don't understand. And usually in public I wear sports bras that dont show boobs and make tgem look small. I don't know why this is happening why all the sudden do people find me appealing?
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (20 June 2014):
 Hello,
Why have you suddenly gained a lot of attention? Its because your body is changing. At 14 you will be starting puberty and your body will start to change from a kids figure to starting to look like that of a young woman. You will be developing breasts, the shape of your legs, hips and so on will change and you will suddenly stop looking like a child and start looking more like a young woman. You wear a bra now, but I bet not long ago you didn't? I'm sure in a pair of shorts or a skirt your legs look more shapely and attractive to boys now than they did a few months back too. Its because you are growing into a young woman and out of looking like a girl.
You say you are thin and naturally skinny, but as you go through these changes you will find that being slim is something many boys will find appealing.
Do you wear make up now? If you have recently started wearing make up that could be another reason, as well as what i have just described, why you are getting attention.
Another point to be made is that the boys your own age are changing too. They are going through puberty now and that makes them very attracted to girls. Many boys your age will think about little else than girls and their looks. A group of 12/13 year old boys wont be into girls much. A class full of 14 year olds is a different story altogether.
A word of caution. Enjoy your new found attention and be happy that boys find you attractive, but steer well clear of older boys and adult men who flirt with you. It may be something you find flattering either now, or in the near future, but there are plenty of grown men looking to take advantage of young girls.
Mark
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2014): I don't think it'll all be for you; some of it will be for others and coincidental, as well as perceived. Basically, you're noticing things more about other people and feel like they're noticing the puberty hitting you. Often, they're not, but you've noticed it, so you feel like they must suddenly be noticing it. If it's repeated by the same person and it bothers you, tell them to stop.
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