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writes:I'm a 17 year old kid. I'm kind of shy around certain people and kinda insecure like most teens are so of course I'm scared of rejection but I was just wondering 1 do girls around my age care about looks? And 2 what are some ways I can approach a girl and what could I say? For anyone who could help thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2014): Heyya, im 15 very soon and I'll tell you what you need to know. Yes, girls most definitely look at a guys looks: in class all I hear about how hot, ugly, short, tall etc. this guys was, and whatever. Girls my age are ridiculously immature and will ONLY date a guy based on his good looks. As girls (and even guys) start to grow and mature, they realise that it's not all about looks, but personality (and a good body teehee) but it's really quite simple to attract a girl: have good hygiene, smell good, CONFIDENCE in what you do (not to the point of arrogance) not cocky, honest, and a big loving heart - that most guys these days lack a lot.You should remember that a lot of teenage girls these days have a bitchy attitude, but I guess rejection is part of life - you must feel the fear and do it anyway - otherwise you life will just be full of regrets and when you do encounter that special, honest, and true girl, It will be worth it, trust me. Also, Just be yourself and different.. If it doesn't work, don't waste your time on something you never had.... First to approach a girl you have to make eye contact, and let it show that you are interested and like her, make her feel like there is a spark and that she is special. Just look at her eyes, then smile - it will show that you have acknowledged the girl. Go to her and tell her that you've "noticed how much she.....stands out/cute/adorable/smiles". Tell her that you may want to get to know her if that's ok with the girl. If she accepts, great! if not, oh well, it doesn't mean your unattractive or anything, it means your probably not her type.Mostly, if girls notice they have caught your attention, they might approach you. If you feel to uncomfortable to move, just do the come here sign with your finger. Always be positive, stand up straight, be a man (you came on this planet to protect), speak only nice words, make a good impression (not FAKE, please!! be yourself - otherwise it will NOT work out) and last, most importantly: be a gentleman.Good luck honey! it's ok to be shy - it takes practice to talk and get used to people and girls especially - I used to be so shy around guys that I would not make eye contact and I would blush like mad (embarrassing!) but now, I don't care want people think of me, because I'm me and nobody is like me, there are haters out there, but all you've got to do it look up and say, yes I can! - lol. Good luck man. xxSoon to be 15 year old girl. :D
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (20 June 2014):
 Yes they do.
And I bet you rate girls on looks too.
As for how to approach them, just don't be tacky or cheap, treat them with respect. Imagine chatting to your friends and do the same with girls, just to break the ice.
If you find one you really like, ask her out. Do something you both enjoy so its a laugh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2014): Everyone cares about looks to some degree, OP, even you.
Want to know the secret of getting teenage girls and lots of them? Learn to play the guitar and get good enough that you feel confident performing publicly, at parties etc.
It's the ultimate aphrodisiac for teen girls. Being able to play in front of people automatically makes you seem confident, playing the soppy kind of songs they love makes you seem soulful and deep, and I mean come on, you're a teen you see the effect that musicians have on them. Just become that guy. Far easier than asking girls out and having rejection worsen your insecurities.
Seriously, learn the guitar. Start playing Beatles and Nirvana songs, start playing acoustic versions of pop hits and Ed Sheeran shite too, and then watch as all of a sudden you become hot shit to girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2014): People always care about looks because being physically attracted to someone is important, whether you're attraction is sexual or just aesthetic (asexuals).That said, personality really does trump over having dreamy looks for most people. However, that doesn't always kick in until you're in your early 20s. So, most teenage girls can be quite superficial when it comes to boyfriends (just like the other way round - and for lesbians and gay men), but there are still some who look more for personality.I don't suggest just approaching any girl; your focus shouldn't be on getting *a* girlfriend; it should be about approaching a girl you already like. In that case, you'd talk about common interests and work up to "maybe we can catch some lunch some time" or something (if you know them quite well). Join hobby groups if you don't know many girls well because then you'll find some with a common interest (hopefully). Maybe even join some free websites for art appreciation, gaming, or whatever it is you're into and just get used to talking to girls. Be careful though; make sure you video chat with someone before giving out any identifiable information :-)
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