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*ndrew loves hali
writes:why do so many people strive to fall in love? whats the great thing about love? and what are the set backs? it doesnt really make any cents to me anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): Because falling in love is the ultimate rush in the world. New love makes you feel that you are on top of the world! Some of us are in love with being in love (I think more women than men)
Until you experience it, you won't know but when you do, it will be one of those "Aha moments," and then you will understand.
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reader, b.rye +, writes (16 May 2009):
 Did you mean sense? Nice pun at any rate. I have a friend who is currently getting a PhD in philosophy. The concept of her thesis is romantic love; what is it, how do we define it, what are the requirements of definition, etc. What I found fascinating about her thesis and research is that there are very very few sources that attempt to define romantic love in the same regard that philosophy has for, say, platonic or familial love. My friend, however, theorizes that the basis for romantic love is conflict. The set back then? Well, that would be conflict - power and personality conflict in my opinion. I am of the belief that romantic love, and the reasons that people strive to attain romantic love, is for the simple purpose of procreation. As the highly advanced species on Earth, we are more emotionally driven and so feel the need to cultivate that into our physical and mental existence, thus making it far more complicated than it probably is biologically speaking. At your age I can tell you that biology is the primary reason your peers strive to fall in love. Hormones are becoming a prominent messenger for your physiology, and the sexual peak is not that far away for males of your cohort (most women reach their sexual prime in their late twenties, early thirties, whereas men reach it in their early to mid twenties). The females are searching to find the necessary security to obtain an appropriate environment (i.e. home) in which to bear and raise children. In our society that entails finding a male mate that provides those requirements. As life progresses the children grow up and move out of the home place (hopefully), so the drive for individuals then becomes companionship driven. Fundamentally, we are a species that finds emotional pleasure and euphoria when expressing our sexuality with a desired partner, regardless of age. Again, hormones, sex hormones to be exact, require the body to be satisfied in this regard, and the way it makes that happen is by demanding we find a sexually desirous partner that fulfills our intimate demands and emotional security. Humans are very complex creatures. We have hardly even begun to understand ourselves. But some things are very basic and essential, and creates a drive for us to fulfill basic needs such as species survival (procreation). Because of our emotional and mental complexities, these needs blend themselves into other needs that we have. This is because the satisfaction of the procreation demand incidentally satisfies our need for emotional security and want of companionship. Thus, the two go hand in hand. That was really verbose. I apologize for that. But there is a reason that men generally want women, and vice versa. However, my book I just wrote to you might give insight to why some men want men, and women want women, also. Our biological needs have become intertwined with our emotional needs. I hope I have made sense (no pun intended by your posting).
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (16 May 2009):
 Have you ever heard of Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs? It could be the answer to this question. In short, we as a species strive for companionship, and that's what "love" is. It's a companionship and a commitment. It's fulfulling to think that you're the only one for someone else.
and that's the most SENSE i can make of love..
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