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writes:An element in a typical argument I've never understood. Why do people lie and make you out to be something your not? I don't understand.I won't give you my life story but I had an argument with a friend, well past friend who I fell out with a while ago. I'm not going to say it was easiest thing I've done as we were best friends but life goes on. I recently found out he'd spoken about me in a somewhat harsh way to one of his friends. Not backstabbing me or anything, however he had made afew statements up about me that weren't true, something for them to laugh at.When i found out about this i was deeply hurt and confused, he wanted no contact with me, didn't care after we fell out so why suddenly use me for his own humor. Obviously I confronted him about this, however it wasn't face to face. Not only did he deny the whole thing but he also made me up to be a s*** stirrer, saying that I was trying to cause trouble between him and his friend saying that he and his mate had done what they had. I was only standing up for myself. Everything we argued about, he turned around on me, to the point none of it made sense, however I am ridiculously useless at arguing and he, well he's good at it now, he never used to be.I've noticed this before. Why do people turn the ball round on you? Why even bother speaking about me and why although it goes without saying that person will never admit their faults why do they make you feel bad about it? When infact you did nothing wrong, despite past accusations and arguments which both parties could of been at fault. Why do they turn it around on you and accuse you of doing something your not!?!???
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2013): I think you're beating yourself up about nothing.
People sometimes grow out of friendships; and get a little twisted.
They get involved with a bad crowd and fall under their bad influences.
Suddenly their old friends aren't as important as they used to be.
He wanted to look cool in the eyes of the new friend, and used you as his chosen victim.
He ridiculed you and sacrificed the friendship in order to impress someone else. This is just a sign that it is time to cut ties completely, and move on. He no longer cares for you or your friendship. So he trashed you.
Once you cut loose of the situation, he has no more power. If you spend a lot of time giving this bullshit merit; you'll just feel bad about it.
Is it really worth it, if he sacrificed your friendship in the process? Should you care, if you know it is a lie?
You can't control what people say or do, but you can control whether you continue any further contact with them.
End all contact, and what he has said and done will soon lose all importance.
You're the one sticking around, trying to make sense of it, and pouting about it. The more distance you put between you and this guy, the better you'll feel. Plain and simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2013): Because JERKS and BITCHES do exist in this world.
Sometimes their idea of fun is to make fun and gossip about other people.
But if i were you, just don't mind them, if you know yourself that it isn't true.
Do you believe in karma? I do too. its even digital too.
So don't worry it will go after them. Just wait for it.
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