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26-29,
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writes:Hy. I feel different right now as to what s wrong with me? Many people(especially my relatives) find my behaviour/personality odd. Really. .i dont know why they think im a bit strange. Im a nice person, caring, dont take any illegal substances, respectful, polite, shy(sometimes), like being alone most of the times(when im not around my friends) and doing well at school. People still find all that i do odd. .why? I dont put on any funny clothes or look at people in a funny way. My mother s always complaining about me being alone most of the time but why? I do like being alone it gives me peace. Now i dont have a healthy relationship with my mom, we hardly talk, she always mad. .yelling at me..blaming me for every little mistake i do, she never says 'you did good or thanks' after ive done something really nice, she will just keep quiet and that really hurts my feelings. I am the only girl at home, got 2 brothers (younger and older). My mom prefers asking assisstance from them than me, like when we are in the same room she would just talk to them and isolate me. This s now eating me up deep in side, ive been crying on my own lately. .my scores at school are decreasing. I cant study or do anything right anymore because i feel like 'why do that, ur already useless. Nobody needs you an what you do' its like a voice stuck in my head and i need out now . I love my mom i wish she was supporting me right now in this situation, but she s not there. I cant even share anything with her, she always take the little things i say very personal (even if its a funny joke) so she would get mad at me. What s wrong with me?
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (9 September 2012):
 Quiet people are frequently misunderstood. Because you're not overly social, this puzzles most people because most people need to be around others, need to do things with others and a good number of people are really afraid to spend time by themselves. Your mother doesn't know how to relate to you. She sees your introverted personality to be puzzling, or "slow". You're not like anyone else and she can't figure you out, so she attacks you verbally or becomes indifferent. This is what people do when you don't fit into their ideal "box" in life. She has great difficulty embracing someone who is different, not like she is, not like the other kids in the family. She does not understand you and it may take years before she does. You could simply state these things to her. Tell her that you'd apreciate some recognition, compliments for a job well done. Affirmation that you matter to her. Because you are so silent, she does not know what you think about, or how you feel. If you want her behavior to change, you have to tell her what you want, and how you want to communicate with her. Perhaps that will change the situation between you. Good luck.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (8 September 2012):
In short, nothing is wrong with you. There is clearly some breakdown in your relationship with your mother, this is going to be difficult to resolve if you can’t talk to her and explain how her actions make you feel. Could you perhaps get one of your brothers to help you get through to her? Whatever the case, the reality is that you are not odd. It sounds like your attitude to life is pretty healthy. It seems a shame that other people’s comments are undermining it. Plenty of people, for example are shy and enjoy the peace and quiet of being alone. Don’t listen to hurtful comments like this, you are fine. Unfortunately, sometimes people aren’t able to see that it’s okay to be different, and they think any way that isn’t their way is odd or wrong. You have to just learn to live with that and find happiness in your own choices.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Pretty and proud +, writes (8 September 2012):
 Ok so sounds like shes having some sort of a mid life crisis. I'm the only girl with 3 brothers. The sun shines out of thier a**es and I'm the devils dirty wh*re!
The best thing to do is embrace the fact that people think your different. When someone calls you wierd or whatever just say "thanks" people are scared of "different" study hard, make it your business to become successful and show your haters (and mum) who's boss. Mothers get jealous of thier daughters because they look at us and remember thier youth. She sounds like she's having issues at the moment. Best thing to do is just have fun with it, I'm "odd" and I love it because it what makes me unique. Please don't be a sheep because normal is boring!
Ps: study hard ;)
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