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writes:as your aware my last question was over my ex i moved on and met someone else, at first he was really funny told that i was the one, and that he loved me dearly we went on holiday together but he woud blow hot and cold with me, i felt real close to him at times and we discussed alot of our mishaps in life, then one day he turned around and finished with me and asked if we coul remain friends, it was as if i meant nothing, i was yet again very hurt by this and asked him why he chased me to get my affections then when he got them he went cold, im starting to think its me, why do people do that especialy when they already know youve had a hard time,
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reader, hmcm +, writes (28 December 2010):
hmcm is verified as being by the original poster of the questiona massive thankyou to everyone for there advice xx
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reader, hmcm +, writes (29 November 2010):
hmcm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou to all who replied to my question, i think most of you were right and he used me, i just dont understand people with those motives but ill be more watchfull from now on, thanks again xx
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (8 November 2010):
 No, it could be that you held up too much of a high wall for too long for him to climb and after a while he realised he's never going to be with you and thus suggested you remain friends. Mataphorically that is.
It's possible that there may have been another woman who come along and the wall she held up was much lower, enough for him to chase then be rewarded along the way. Wether it be a bit of romance or even a simple lunch date.
He could have said he wants to be friends in order to become closer to you, I don't know how hard you gave home the chase but it's often that if a man wants a woman to be a big part of his life he'll want to be friends with the hope it would eventually mature into a romantic love.
Regardless of what pop society says about your either a friend or a lover it's always good to be friends first, especially if she's a one in 7 billion. If you are great friends first then the love between you both can only be stronger.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (8 November 2010):
 He got what he wanted? He obviously isn't very good at relationships.
This is not about you, but him. It just hurt you mroe then him.
Drop him like a hot potato, no let's be friends,no sex. Pure and simple drop him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): It's not you. Guys like that like the thrill of the chase so to speak and once they've gotten what they wanted, which is usually sex they get bored. Basically he probably used you, then said the classic "lets be friends" line to make it seem like he's not a complete ass, which he is. He told you what you wanted to hear to get what he wanted. He's a loser.
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reader, MelaBoo +, writes (8 November 2010):
 some ppl prollly dont mean too... but others just want to see you sad so he can get to be happy! but umm....yea dont go for it hunny just do you and get another one....ok.. its for the best.. dont worry bout it!
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