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writes:Why do relationships seem to last longer between people who have very little in common?I had everything in common with my girlfriend, and yet it lasted less time than the relationships where the guy is a total abusive d*ck..
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reader, bitterblue  +, writes (2 August 2009):
 Women don't like abusive men, how did you reach such conclusion? There are unhealthy relationship that survive longer than they should but they are not happy. This happens for many reasons, but usually the woman is too weak to leave, or has been taught to be complacent, subdued. You will be exposed to many examples of "what not to do" and "how not to be" (relationship-wise and otherwise) in your lifetime. Sometimes it can be hard to identify the wrongness of a situation, especially if you have seen it in reality in many shapes and forms and it may have even seemed 'the norm' but you must keep an open mind and be willing to learn, so you in time you will have managed to create healthy views on relationships and, why not, set a good example in your own. If you have other questions about your own situation, feel free to ask.As for the fact opposites attract... or not, this is obviously not a rule and counterexamples should be countless. Imagine having very divergent views on rearing a child, a deal breaker to most. Or not to look so forward: a quiet person can be drawn to a more talkative person and like how they complement each other, but if this person slips out embarassing details in front of their friends in the heat of the speech, what initially brought them together may begin to set them apart, and it's precisely the different feature. Also, the talkative should like the nature of the other, and this isn't a rule either.
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reader, Elliiott  +, writes (2 August 2009):
 Well, I'm not abusive to my girlfriend, But me & her, We don't really have anything in common, I like sports & Films, She likes horses & going out.
But I think its because of our differences that the relationship has lasted for nine months.
So, I guess we are constantly learning new things about the things we love and enjoy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2009): theres nothing like that.its just upto you how comfortable are you in his or her presence.it depends on how you understand each other or how your brain reacts to different situations not to the way it likes things to be.so you have to be careful to agree to something that you like in itsway is good to you but cant be nice if it was something else.
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reader, Love is all you need  +, writes (2 August 2009):
 it can go either way, you could have a long relationship with someone and you liked the same stuff. But yes, opposites do attract, because you like different things it makes the relationship more intereting while getting to know each other. you might find out something she liked and tried it out. Doing different activites something she liked....something you like.
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