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writes:Ok this is a really weird problem and I'm gonna sound so paranoid but I really think my parents are spying on me. There have been more than a few instances where I've walked out of my bedroom and caught one of them listening at my door or "casually" hanging around outside it. Its so weird.And this bit is gonna sound really paranoid but I really think they have put some kind of hidden camera in my room. They keep saying things and sort of tripping themselves up. Like I was watching tv with my mum, it was one of those funny home video programs, and there was a girl who was hopping around trying to pull on her jeans then she fell over. My mum laughed and said "thats what you did!" then she realised what she'd said and shut up instantly. Cos she's right I did do that a few days beforehand, in my room, alone, when nobody else was even in the house. I wracked my brain after that and I definitely didnt mention it to her or tell her i'd done it. And she stopped talking and laughing the second she realised what she'd said. You know the way people do when they realise they've put their foot in it.And a few weeks ago i was arguing with my dad about something and in the heat of the moment he said "well maybe you should get your head out of your backside and realise whats important in life, what sort of superficial airhead needs to spend 30 minutes of their day, get changed 5 times before finally deciding what to wear!" which is exactly what i'd done that morning. how the hell could he have known that unless he'd been able to see in my room?! There have been a few other things like that too. They are the sort of people who would do that and not think anything of it because its their house. Anytime we argue or I say I'm going to my room or ask one of them to get out of my room, they'll reply with "its not your room, we own this house". So i know they would do something like that with the logic of they pay the mortgage therefor its their house and if they wanna put cameras in it they can.I'm so confused. I keep wondering if its me and I'm just being paranoid and insane but I cant find any other explanation for how they would know the things they know. And I have definitely caught them listening outside my door loads of times. I dont even know what they could be listening for!I'm 23 and I really need to get my own place, I know that but financially its just not on the cards at all.Any ideas about what is going on or what I should do? I'm so freaked out. Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Look for the camera but also set a trap and call them out on it. They are right it is their house but you also have a right to your own privacy. I think if you find the camera you need to have a nice chat about what their motives were for installing it. And start saving up for your own place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): I suggest you have a look around your room, and see if you can see any signs of them digging around. I live with my parents too, and it horrifies me to think what would happen if I found out they put a camera in MY room! You have every right to be upset, because if they are even listening at your door, they have no right to. You need your privacy, and if something fishy is going on, it needs to be stopped. It almost angers me when I hear stories of parents acting like this - I've always been a private person, and hate them even knowing tiny thinks like if I'm reading or watching TV in my room.
It'll be hard, and I understand that, but your best bet is looking around your room for any signs. And if you find anything or they drop a comment accidentally, ask them about it straight away. Tell them you think it's freaky how they seem to know these things, and ask them how. Or maybe you could just tell them out right that you want more privacy. Of course, you could get a job and move out as soon as you can, but you might find that a bit drastic.
Good luck honey, really :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): The only way you will know for sure would be to ask what the deal is. Explain that you are feeling uncomfortable with them hovering around your room and ask your mom how she knew you fell over pulling your jeans up. Theres no harm in thinking that somethings going on so long as you are willing to look into what it is and not just worry about it on your own. Plus if they are spying on you - they need to know you know!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits so weird, they like my boyfriend, i've never done drugs. I'm not particularly close to my parents but i cant think of any reason which is really freaking me out cos its making me think they are watching me undress and - god forbid - have sex.
Its really freaking me out so bad I cant stand to be around them and really feel like I just wanna move out and cut my entire family out of my life. But what if its all in my head? God i'm confused.
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