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writes:Why are women so often told to try and see what their man likes inmpirn an emulate that . How can a woman possibly be Swedish, Asian , big breasted , small breasted , tall , petite , black , white or any of those other things that men so often seek out through poem when that simply is not who she is . Men state time and time again that it is the VARIETY that gets them going on the porn , therefore by its very nature no woman can possibly alter her physical body to become someone else ( and why should she really ) I see time and time again people saying to women , see what he likes and give him that . Well that’s kind of hard when he might like huge breasted dark skinned women and your flat chested and white. This just seems so disrespectful and hurtful towards the woman’s feelings . It simply doesn’t feel good to see women constantly being told they need to try and be something they are not simply because men can never be satisfied with them .Do men ever think of this or care how women feel about not being enough
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (8 July 2019):
"I see time and time again people saying to women , see what he likes and give him that"
Do you really hear that time and time again? Where? I've never heard it.... and I'm a long-term singleton whose love-life has been positively disastrous but I've never been told that I should try and emulate anyone else to attract or keep a man.Even when I have wondered where I keep going wrong
Well, I might have read something in Cosmopolitan back in the 80's when I used to read such shit - but that's a magazine that caters to boy-mad girls who are barely out of their teens. And even that article didn't say that a woman should try and look like a porn star or change their body - just that women shouldn't be afraid to ask their boyfriends what ACTIVITIES turn them on in bed.
I think that you that you're simply very insecure about your own body and that you're an over-thinker
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 July 2019):
 Do you think this is ALL men? Because that is ridiculous.
Just like NOT all women would like a sexy Adonis with a 8 pack, hung like a horse and plenty of money... not all men want what they don't "have".
I don't know who "tells women" to give men what they want. If anyone told me that I'd laugh.
Be who you are, BE OK with who you are and LOVE you for you. And any man who doesn't want THAT... well, HIS loss.
If you don't like banal stereotypes DO NOT buy into them. Yes, it's that simple. Why go around and LOOK for things to offend you?
I'm not a big busted or big woman. My husband does like that, and that is fine... but he KNOWS what I look like and finds me attractive too... even after 20+ years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2019): Are you the same OP that regularly posts in these kind of questions about men wanting females to look and be a certain way?
I'm not sure who you hang out with or who you listen to or read about but personally I'm just myself in my relationship and never thought I need to seriously try and be or look like anyone else.
I think you take your thoughts a little bit too seriously
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