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writes:Why all this negativity towards men who value virginity of a woman?I'm astonished at certain responses which seems to candidly brush this aside as a selfish attribute. It seems people don't understand the psychological and emotional aspects of why men want virgins, in particular when they are one themselves.In truth it is not a woman's sexual prowess that is judged but it is largely dependant on the man. For women it does not matter so much, in fact a man with relative experience would pretty much be the better choice to a woman.For a man an exclusivity is a big deal much more than it is to a woman, this is not a question of preference it just is in our nature, there is a reason why a woman's past seem to affect men more than it does to women.When a man chooses to marry a virgin he marries in the safety of having his mind and heart at peace.In general it seems that certain aspects of a man's psychological and emotional make-up are brushed aside with inadeqaute consideration. Reply to this Article
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reader, Kuroneko  +, writes (4 November 2008):
To me, it is on the same level as women valuing their men's virginity. To enter a married relationship knowing that you are not being compared to anyone, to know that your spouse saved themselves for the special you is a gratifying thing.
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reader, Rima Says +, writes (22 October 2008):
Hey man, I am a virgin and I am happy to know men like that. hahaha. I was beginning to think it was "WEIRD" to be a virgin. By the way, I am 23, just to throw that in there. Not really OLD OLD MAID (what the hell is wrong with you girl, couldn't get laid by now?) but still it is relatively rare to come across a virgin AT MY AGE. Media tabloids have girls getting pregnant at 16, and having their second kid already...what a life! Most people have done it, and you really stick out like a sore thumb these days with no sex experience--though I think it is not really the most sophisticated art to learn (hey it's been around since cave-men age, can't be that COMPLICATED) unless you are going for the Kama Sutra or something. Now, if some nice, caring, and attractive guy (heheh, by my standards)likes that and wants to build his world around me...well, well, well...Disney movie (Ariel, Cinderlla, Jasmine and all the other virgin princesses)! I am totally okay being his one and only-:)
Hey, if the shoe fits...
heheheh,
Take care folks,
Rima Says...Smile, everyone looks better with a smile (unless you have yellow teeth, in which case, paint them white)..lol
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (18 October 2008):
 I completely understand that sort of psychology in a man and dare say it may even be even more heavily routed in the male evolution to make sure the children he concieves with a woman are his. Like marking territory.The problem I have though is the almost cult like obsession with virginity. Society also plays a big role also in the placing of virginity on a pedestal of pure. I dont know if you have over looked this as well, but with all that hype, it is also the near dark notion that they are the brutes that sully the pure. Its a turn on to be the corrupter. I, personally, think this is wrong and sometimes leads to form of perversions like child molestation because of what I call "purity robbing."The psycology that a man is taking innocence and purity from someone is also a notion of power because they can. I personally dont see the problem if a man comes across a virgin and is happy to find out when he dates her. I have a problem with men who treat other women with contempt, brand them as dirty with ill repute pasts and diliberately seek virgins to satify their desires. Poeple are people and we should be raising men to see women as people who, just like them, can have a sexual past.HonningKanin
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