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*ainyDays93
writes:Hi there, I have been seeing my boyfriend for nearly six months and recently found photographs of his ex on his computer. They are photos from her page on a social networking site featuring her in her bikini on holiday, these photos were taken while i was seeing my boyfriend. I'm scared he is looking at these photos because he misses her and isn't fully satisfied with our sexual relationship. I don't know how to bring it up with him and i'm considering whether i should break up with him or not. I suffer from extremely low self esteem and have recently been feeling depressed and this has affected me really badly. I don't know what to do. Please help :(
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reader, CuteBabe  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Some times people keep track of their ex's, for example they look up some photos maybe what ever news they could get about them. But it doesn't have to mean that there is something wrong with you or your relationship with him! Nor does it have to mean that he misses her or wants to be with her more than you but it could be just human nature! I'm not neglecting the possibility though! there is a chance that he does miss her!So it's your job to find out what's really going on!! talk to him about it and ask him to be fully honest about it no matter what the truth is, and convince him that your willing to accept the truth too..i'm saying by accepting the truth that if he misses her you should stay with him, OF COURSE NOT. But if this is the case you should hold your insecurities in at the time and try to keep your head way high, no matter how it may hurt don't cry and turn all mushy as if he's the only guy in the world especially in front of him! But when you get home do whatever you want(cry, yell, scream)!!
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reader, RainyDays93 +, writes (25 September 2010):
RainyDays93 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice it's been really helpfull, going to speak to him today.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): Depression does affect your self-esteem so maybe you could seek help from the doctor. It is free.
You need to broach the subject with your ex. Just ask him outright why he still has photos of her, and whether he prefers her to you. Don't keep this feeling inside, or it will add to your depression.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): Dont just assume the worst; ask him but dont get paranoid about it. Why are you automatically thinking your sexual relationship isint good enough? Sex should just be a part of a healthy relationship, not a means of keeping people together.
Believe in yourself and love yourself. Unless you dont, nobody else will.
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