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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (29 September 2013):
 Did you receive counseling after the rape? And did you report the rape to police?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (29 September 2013):
 Sounds like you're doing a whole lot of starting and stopping sentences.
Your past shouldn't affect your current relationship. Don't let your baggage sabotage what you have now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionnot Needy did not want to ever date again and for 5 yrs I did not date and he had not dated in 4 years(since he got hurt from his gf cheating). This guy was patient, understanding and so nice to me he won my heart. So i decided to date him.
In the past i had to divorce X husband started drinking etc,
and someone i knew from church raped me... and i tried to date but.... And i met this guy he made me smile, i felt safe with him. First 3 months went well then the last 9 months.... Now you see the results.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (29 September 2013):
Don't say that stuff. The whole "I wanted someone to care whether i lived or died". Come on now. Really?
Those sort of statements are extreme attention-seeking and tend to drain the partners of those who say things like that. That goes in line with people who are constantly seeking validation and are negative. Don't say that stuff. If someone cares, that's a given.
You're 51-59. A guy can't carry you emotionally. A guy can't be your everything. That is too much for a guy to bear. He stopped himself because he didn't want to vent his frustration at comments like that.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 September 2013):
 He he normally a talkative and eloquent speaker? If not, maybe he didn't know how to express his sentiment in a way that would make sense.
Or he thought your "live or die" statement was a tad to dramatic and didn't know how to explain that without hurting your feelings.
It's hard to say. It really comes down to the situation. How it was said and what you meant by it. Did you talk about him? or men in general? Why it was said, you know. Hard to tell from what you wrote.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni think he means they just don;t..... love me or want to marry me since LOVE is a frightful word to him.
i am getting stronger and as i do I will be able to handle this some how.. i am very naive which is obvious,
I am a adult but naive in the dating world
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2013): a comment to my question.. he is afraid to use the world love. they just don't........ i am guessing he meant love or want to marry. but i can only guess..
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reader, GentleGiant  +, writes (29 September 2013):
Where did you meet this psycho? He is just trying to bully you by using these childish tactics. Ask him why he is doing what he is doing. If you don't get a good answer that makes you happy tell him to go and take a hike. You don't need this .Move forward.
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