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writes:(disregard my age please, i am 21 and the guy is 26)this happened to me with a guy i dated for 2 and a half years and when i got pregnant he said he didnt love me anymore. i'm 7 months pregnant now. he changed his phone number, won't answer emails and blocked me from everything. he told his brother to tell me that he wants me to give him the baby. we are in different countries now, i haven't seen his face in about 6 months. i loved him and i still miss him sometimes... why do men leave like this? why can't i get over it?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 July 2010):
The same man that lied about loving you for 2 and a half years is the same man who walked away when you were pregnant. Now you're doing the classic thing and blaming yourself. You're wondering why he hates you and what you did. Stop that. You didn't do anything. He's the one who lied, he's the one who walked away. He's the problem. Cut him out, and accept that he was a worthless lemon. But please don't sit there and wonder what you did wrong. You didn't. He's the asshole.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell yeah it was pretty sudden. i mean we were doing ok, regular couple problems but we loved each other (or so i thought) the day i told him i was pregnant, everything changed for no aparant reason. i just dont understand why. last time we spoke he said that for the past years he had lied and he never loved me and was with me just for sex... but really what man lies for 2 and a half years just for some sex? i dont understand what made him hate me when i was open to communication and mutual support. also he never asked me to get an abortion aqnd he seems to wan the baby but acts like he cares nothing about it either...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe countries where we are from or have lived are really irrelevant because we are both so mixed and have lived and travelled in different countries. i didnt get pregnant on purpose and it was something completely unexpected, however during our relationship he said if i ever got pregnant he would stick with me and be there for his family. he always said he loved me very much... now he says and acts like he hates me.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 July 2010):
Most men don't do that. I'd hang before I did that to a girlfriend and child.
The reason? There are 2
1 - He's too immature and can't handle it or be a father
2 - He feels as if he has been tricked.
In your case, I think when he found out that you were pregnant, he couldn't handle it and made a run for it.
Oh, by the way. Don't give him the child. He'll kidnap it.
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reader, johannabanana +, writes (22 July 2010):
 What's important here is the baby... A lot of moms get caught up their own lives to look out for their child. When your baby is born it should be your number one priority (unless you give it up for adoption) And if it's a girl you have to be extra careful. Statisics say that a lot of girls get mulested by men there moms have exposed them to.... So make sure if you decided to ever have a love life again that your child should come first and you should wait for things to get serious with a guy before you even tell him you have a little girl. And make sure you know him a long long time before he ever goes anywhere near her... And even if it's a boy be careful!! There are a lot of wack jobs out there!! As for your boyfriend I have no idea why he would do something like that to you. That is in no way a normal reaction.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (22 July 2010):
 He bwants the baby hmmm... stop trying to figure out the why... if you want the baby to be born healthy you need to stop stressing.. also dont blame all men for the act of one...you may never know why this guy left accept that.. its time to move on and do what you gotta do for your child these things are hard it will be hard for along time...Have faith in God... i think its a mistake to love another human being so deeply and turn your back on God... you can only end up dissapointed by humans.. take care time will make things better
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