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writes: Why do men chicken out when it comes to the question of marriage? Even if they are mid twenty? Reply to this Question
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reader, silent_whispers  +, writes (29 May 2007):
Marriage doesn't hold the same value as it did some time ago. Marriage means commitment, to only one lady/man. However in this day and age, where sex and lustful relations are on the go, who would really want to commit to just one woman?Peoples mentality has changed, and i know a lot of men, who say, why have one woman when you can have ten?there has been a shift from love to lust, and its all about sex these days, but please remember, there are still decent people out there. Some people chicken out because they have had a bad past. a lot of these men have been cheated on or hurt by someone in the past and so they are scared to commit themselves again. Maybe if your with someone and you want to settle down and they don't , then its a sign that your with the wrong individual. People have different opinions and feelings, especially because marriage is made out to be a cage, where the man is trapped. People don't understand what marriage is truly about, until they get married. In essence, men are simply afraid of getting hurt, and unlike women, who would most of the time just want to be with one person, men these days like to experiment and have the freedom to do as they please-they just dont want to be controlled!
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reader, childof1981  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Perhaps it's because marriage does almost nothing except change how you file your taxes and expose both parties to immense financial liability. I know several men in their 50's that are no better off financially than I am right now (at 25) due to divorces.
So is it really "Chickening Out" or just simply "Not Being Stupid"?
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Its not only men some woman have troubles commiying to one person for the rest of their lives.
Marriage is suppose to be for life (even with high divorce rates) and some people are scared of this.
If he is scared just talk to him aboutyour fears and his and i bet you canr each an agreement
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reader, DV1 +, writes (29 May 2007):
 A lot of people, guys and girls, are commitment phobic these days. The norm these days seems to be sleeping and dating around, and losing your virginity at a young age. It's a shame that the world is becoming like this...
Not all guys are like this, though. If I fell in love with a woman, and really loved her, I would ask her to marry me, and have my baby...
DV1
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): Mid twenties aren't really the age at which men should be getting married now days. It's more like thirtys. I am 25, but I am a female and as we all know females are generally more mature than men. But I'm not married. Just wait. Ask him if he ever will and if not move on. If that's what you really want.
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reader, stina +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Hello Anonymous,
Not all men are like this. If a guy "chickens out" when it comes to marriage, then it's because he's not ready. And that's not really "chickening out." It's being realistic and responsible so you dont end up in a doomed marriage.
Take care.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (29 May 2007):
 I don't think all men do chicken out. I think the one's with cold feet or reluctance are not the one's you should be thinking about marrying since they should ideally show enthusiasm and commitment from day 1. After all, marriage is a tough old business as the divorce rate can testify to. Therefore it is just a question of finding the right husband really.
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