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writes:my boyfriend and i have been together for a little over 2 years now. I'm 19 he's 22. We're extremely happy, and often talk about the future we plan to have, except lately I've been having thoughts of getting engaged, married and pregnant quite often. We love each other so much and want this for the upcoming years but i keep fantasizing about us being pregnant already, which is out of the question at this point. If i know it can't and won't happen for at least another 6 or 7 years why do i think about it so much and yearn for that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): It sounds like it's just something you really want and are just so in love that you want these things with your boyfriend and just dream of having them all the time because of that love. There's nothing wrong with that at all but I think that it's good you realize that despite what your heart feels you are also thinking with your head and knowing it isn't the right time for whatever reasons - maybe financial, etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): I think that every young woman fantasizes about being pregnant at some point in their life. But that's all it is- a fantasy. It is just life fantasing about your wedding day.
Becoming a parent is a big responsibility and I think someone as young as you are is only thinking of the fun parts. The thrilling excitment that you are having a baby, showing the baby off, playing with the baby, and having a little person who loves you. I can't wait either-but I can. A baby need to be taken care of every minute of the day and in the middle of the night. A baby is helpless, you need to do everything for them. A baby cannot be left alone. Everytime you need to leave the house you need to pack up the baby gear before you can go anywhere. Shopping, dining out, seeing a movie, become completely impossible without a sitter. Even simple tasks like taking a shower, putting on makeup, and eating are difficult to do.
When I was in college I babysat for twin baby boys. They were 3 months old when I started with them. Let me tell you, everytime I was over I either got puked on or peed on. Sometimes their crying woudl not stop no matter what I tried. I am really glad I had that experience because it showed me that having babies will still be wonderful- but when the time is right. When my future husband and I are financially set, when we've seen the world, when we feel that it is okay for a baby to come into our lives.
Maybe you just get a part time job as a sitter for a baby (or twins!) and see then if your mind is changed.
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (20 November 2007):
 As mosy women naturally do you wanna have a kid whose father is the man you love.
It is alright and healthy.
Get married settle down have money and home and have your baby...
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Natural instinct?
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