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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am nor sure what is wrong with me.I am in a relationship with a guy for almost 3 ywars now. We are long distance, but we spend considerable part of the year together (we lived the last 5 months together), and talk constantly. I truly love him. He is moving mountains and doing everything he can to come where I live permanently.The thing is that I am only 22 and feel that my life should not be settled that way... He would be a great long term partner, and he is moving everything to be here (even switching countries), but lately other men have shown their interest for me, and I think to myself that I want to see what else is out there?I think this guy is great, I care for him and love him, but I honestly sometimes am afraid of settling with just him... I think that I am so young and I can still meet people, but then I feel guilty for all that he is doing!We honestly have a great relationship, we get along great, we never fight...any arguments we have someone love me s settled right then and there, our sex life is great, we share the same values, and I am sure he loves me entirely. I feel blessed that he is on my life - and he is 100% on board.Why do I wonder what is on the other side? I do enjoy the attention I get from other men... and I get asked out of dates a lot, but refuse them for my bf, but I keep wondering what would my life be? What i I was with a more successful guy?I feel horrible for thinking that while my bf is making plans to move across the globe for me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2012): I'd like to apologize that no one has responded to your question, I saw the date of when the question was asked and I felt bad. You may have given up on this site by now and it may also be to late, but I will give advice anyway as best to my knowledge...
It is natural to be scared of commitment at your age and wonder of the other possibilities. It can be a scary feeling as your expected to be with one for the rest of your life. At this stage we still have much to learn about ourselves never mind committing to someone. Quite simply, the thought of commitment is what has you thinking of the other side, that famous "what if" is in your head.
It's not wrong to enjoy attention from other men if you handle it right. Who doesn't like being asked out or getting paid a complement, it's a flattering feeling.
As for the more successful guy, I can tell you from experience that money cannot by happiness, money is a fake thing that cannot buy what is real...
I think the best thing to do here is to be honest, tell him your not ready to take such a big step, that you feel pressured. As great as a guy that you got for yourself, he'd probably be choked cause he loves you so much, yet probably would respect that cause he cares about you.
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