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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Recently i've been through a break-up. And everytime i meet a new guy i compare him to my ex. So i dont know the good guys from the bad. Why is this happening? Why can i just get over my ex? And when i compare any guy to him, i think none of them are good enough. =(
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): It is good to have certain benchmarks when you choose your mate. But at the same time keeping your ex in mind and looking for a mate is not good. Remember you said EX... that means he has exited... HE IS EX dear... remember that.
Also remember every male has his own personality, understanding that is important to make a good relationship. Understand him. Make the best.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (11 December 2007):
 You are very much in love.
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reader, Serinity +, writes (11 December 2007):
 That's actually quite natural and more common than you can imagine. The only thing that really helps in this situation is time. If your break is recent then give yourself time to get over him, there is no need to run out and find somebody new ritht away. You are still so young and boys will come and boys will go. When you get older you will look back and wonder why you were so hung up on this guy and you will probably regret the time you spent sulking over it. You have plenty of time to find Mr. Perfect. Now is the time you concentrate on your school and future, so you don't regret letting the oportunity for a great future pass you by. I can't stress enough to teenagers to be patient and concentrate on your future right now. Trust me, I've been there and done that and I always said I'd never have any regrets, I knew what I wanted and I was "grown up". Trust me, you still have much to learn. Even at my age there is still a lot to learn, but at your stage in life, boys should be the least of your worries. Good luck dear.
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