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writes:I am 22 years old, and have been dating the same guy now since I was 17. We have broken up twice and within the breaks I dated other guys. I am not sure if I should stay with this guy and get married or give myself more time. I tend to think about other guys, being single, and just living my life without him. Then again I could marry him tomorrow, and be happy. He really is my best friend and I'm scared to give all this up for someone else that might be 1000 times worse. I just don't understand why I have these thoughts and feelings if I'm "in love". When we go out I don't want him all over me I wanna dance and not be seen with him so maybe I can meet someone else. I always think there could be someone else. He tells me I live in a fairy tale. I just cant waste any more of my life and I need advice. Thanks CDC
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (26 June 2009):
 hi there!firstly i can relate to what you r going thru. i was with my 1st bf for 4 years, thing were going well but i always used to wonder there must be better guys than him.when we used to have relationship breaks i'd see other guys, and of course things go well initially with the other guys. eventually after 4 years of being together, i dumped him for someone else. the guy i dumped him for was a total jerk!i then realised that the grass wasnt always greener on the other side.my point is that u might have grown bored with your current bf and the relationship lacks sparkle and he isnt fulfilling u on some level,the key is you must want the relationship to work or it will fail eventually. if u do end the relationships u cud end up dating losers after him.we honestly can never know the future, but one thing for sure is that u have to follow your instincts. looking back my inner instincts said there was someone better. i dumped my 4 year relationship and ended up with 3 jerks. after all these 3 jerks, i finally managed to find my husband , who may i say is BETTER than all ive dated hence i married him and we're happy thank god.it just goes to show you have to trust your inner self and let it guide you. who knows if you live in a fairytale? it cud be your soul mate is out there and prompting u to move on!good luck!Good luck!!
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