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writes:So my boyfriend and I have officially only been dating for about two months. Although it seems so much longer since we are so close emotionally. We are really into each other. Problem is he wants sex so bad. I know that it's not because that's all he wants from me but because of his past. He has slept with so many girls and although he has changed his player ways he still craves sex because he went from having it at least every week to having it NEVER.. He is frequently saying how he is wants it and needs it but not in any bad way and I completely understand his situation. But my plan was to wait for a very long time until we did anything, I was looking into years. But I didn't know it was going to be this hard. We spend almost every night together until morning. It's so hard not to do anything.Should I just give in?I'm really scared that if I don't any time soon he will eventually just look for it somewhere else. OR do I get strong and just wait longer?keep in mind, it's soooo hard.also,is foreplay acceptable?that way we won't be having sex but he will still be getting pleased in some way.and if so, what kind of fore play.?
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reader, Fiona xxx  +, writes (25 June 2009):
 Are you still aged 13-15 ie under the age of consent? That also has a bearing on things (although it would appear many people don't take notice of that).Regardless of age, it's important to stick to your guns and only do so when you feel right. In practice that might be sooner than you think, but still feel ready.Foreplay is one thing, but you are getting nearer to sex. Basically once you are comfortable with that, it's only a matter of time before you have sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): You shouldn't just give in. You should stick to your plan to wait a long time. You know what's right for you.
If you really care for him, if you really want to do something for him -- if it's *you* that wants to do something for him -- then it's easy to give him something without having intercourse. A hand job should do the trick.
Regardless, don't let the idea that he's all experienced and stuff sway your decision. He might be making that up to move you along. And even if he isn't, you have to be true to yourself. If he'd leave you because he doesn't get sex, he's not worth your time.
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