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writes:I fell in love with a guy 26 years ago. It was love at first sight for me. The whole nine yards. To this day all I have to do is think about him and I get butterflies in my stomach. After dating for 7 months we figured out we were first cousins. I was adopted when I was a baby and we had no idea I was the child his aunt had given up for adoption. We were very much in love. I have never felt the same, before or after. I have been in a couple of relationships since but nothing like what we had. We have not seen each other since and have talked on the phone only once. I am so confused because I still love him. My question is, Why do I still have such strong feelings for him? Is this love or am I just crazy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2013): My parents were first cousins and I have 5 siblings and we all have diabetes due to my parents.
However, at our age we cannot and do not want children.
Please follow your heart, talk to him, if he loves you back and is available please get back with him, we only live once.
I love someone I lost to stupidity 26 years ago and will give anything to find him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2013): I agree with the first post, why don't you ask him to meet up if you are both single and free? It's worth a chance.
Also, I don't know about the law in your country, but here in the UK it is legal to marry your first cousin - and lots of people do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI left town many years ago after we broke up. We didn't speak for almost 20 years. We did have a phone conversation about 4 years ago and talked for 2 hours. It was a great conversation. We haven't spoken since. I am back home now and we live in a small town. I am not sure how I will react when we run into one another. I just don't understand why I still have these feelings for him. I have tried to move on but nothing else works for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2013): Hi, you are not crazy, I share your problem. I know that I loved once completely, trusted and he broke my heart. I am not capable of loving in that same way, its just who we are. I am in a relationship and I love the guy but its not the same.
To be honest it was the passion, the freedom, and the trust.
Just out of curiosity, there are lots of people that marry their first cousins, its not like a brother/sister relationship - why is it not an option?
Is he married? If not I would consider a reconciliation. You live once and its not what others opinion that matter, its whether you believe its wrong, if not go for it!
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