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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My first love was someone who I was deeply in love with for 3 years. We were teenagers when we met. It is now 4 months after our break up. I ended our relationship, for the better of both of us. I do not regret my decision for us to end. If we were meant to be, our paths will cross in due course. We will be happy in time; he deserves to be happy, and so much more. We had spoken of marriage before. There was a lot of pressure. We had broken up after 1 and a half years, then, when we were back together after three weeks, it made us stronger than before. I want him to live his life to the full, as I know he (is?) was serious about me. I was about us, too. But to settle now? When there's so much to see, do, live? You have one life to live, and I want us to have no regrets.How long does it take to move on from your First Love?I'm frightened I'll never feel as intensely as this again... long into the future. We have not spoken since our break up, only online - the 4th month after - in friendly chatter. I am not interested in anybody else, nor do I want to be. However, the thought of him moving away, moving country, possibly never seeing him again, terrifies me. Getting back with him now is not an option... I wouldn't want us to, despite my implicit fondness for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2013): Hi, it depends on an individual and your motivation to move on. You are not very clear why you wanted to end things and kind off indicate you want to set him free, yet your heart is breaking!
If you want to put this relationship behind you, you need to cease all contact and forget the possibility of any reconciliation in the future, as you will hold on to that hope.
Some get over their first love and others always hold onto the memories they shared. Sounds like you are part of the latter.
Start living your life without him and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2013): Mind boggling. Sounds like my ex, you chose to move on and now are unhappy and thinking about him.
Has the thought ever crossed your mind that you might have made a mistake? It seems to me getting back would solve your problems.
And to answer your question, I am still feeling the breakup after 6 months with my first. But then again I wanted her back all along and she didn't.
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