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writes: why does my boyfiend beat me up?i have been with him just over 6 months and we have started having sex but only because he wants it. if we aregue he always hits me. he starts arguements to bilittle me and he says hes scared of me breaking up with him. i have finished the relationship once over and he came runnng back made me feel bad we had sex and he was all lovey lovey again and i cant cope with it any more. why does he tream me like this? i do love him too i want us to be a couple and want him to stop mking me do things i dont want to... Reply to this Question
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reader, angelblueeyes  +, writes (18 October 2007):
 Hi,
I know how you are feeling i went thro the same thing at about the same age, my boyfriend was an obssesive control freak who too liked to use his fists a little to often,
I know that its hard for you right now but you need to get out of this relationship before this guy goes to far, he has no respect for you & he clearly doesn't love you if he did he wouldn't do these things to you and treat you so badley,
You are young so get living and enjoy your life, there is plenty of time for you to find mr right,
Take care & look after no1 you deserve better! contact me if you need to talk x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): Firstly no one has the right to lay a hand on you. The first time he hit you then you should of walked after telling the police.
Secondly, for goodness sake you are way too young for this kind of behaviour!!! Why are you putting up with this. I know what it will lead to. I am very experienced in that department, because i was a battered wife with two small kids for a long time.
Get rid of him now. He belittle you! You say you love him, i dont think you both know the meaning of love, sorry to sound so brutal but that is how if feel.
Please get him out of your life now before it is too late.
Take care and get in touch if you want.
xx
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (17 October 2007):
You are acting the fool to let yourself get beat more than once. You are mistaking the jailer who brings the food for love.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (17 October 2007):
 The reason why he does it should be a problem for him to sort out.
There is no justification for a person to hit another.
Don't fall throught this trap of love/hate relationship.
No man that hurts us can ever respect you or trully love you.
My father hit my mum for nearly 20 years!!!!
This is your wake up call, GET OUT NOW AND STAY AWAY FROM THIS PERSON!
The fact that you dump him, makes him realize that he lost you, comes running with apologies for you to take him back, then history repeats itself.
If you do not like to be miserable for the rest of your life, stay out of it.
Tell your boyfriend to get help for his sake, he has issues to resolve, but in the meanwhile do not be the "punch bag".
As a human being you have the right to be happy. Nobody in this world should put you in a situation that you are not comfortable with. This is not love, it is emotional manipulation.
You may think you love him and want him to change, well most abusers do not change.
If he wanted to be with you, he needs to prove that he can treat you like an equal partner not a rag doll.
Put yourself first, you deserve better.
Lots of hugs
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): It could be that he was physically abused as a child and the only way he knows how to express his feelings is through violence. Stay away from him. He will hurt you more before he does any good to you. You can still love him, you just don't have to be with him.
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (17 October 2007):
 dear Anon
if as you say you are 13 to 15 then you are in deep trouble, men who hit woman are total scum of the earth, and he beats you up for sex that you do not want, the word for that is statutory rape and carries a prison sentence in the U.K, why are you putting up with this scum bag, he needs to be taught a big lesson, leave him now before he hits you so hard that one day he will KILL YOU, its has been recorded before with wife beaters, get yourself out of there, your health ,life and sanity depend on you leaving this moron, you are young enough to start a new life with a guy who wont do these terrible things to you. LEAVE HIM NOW.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): You are 13-15, and how old is he? You need to get out, he is a nut case.
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reader, ladysuzanna  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 yes i know someone like that he does exactly what your boyfriend does then he all loving with her this started three years later she left him get far away from him before you end up dead this guy is sick and need of help and if you stay he will not stop hitting you let him get help if he really cares about you six moths is to long to be a punching bag your in a prison today freedom of speak find someone else good luck
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