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writes:Why is it, that when you are with someone you cant stand them and dont want to be with them but when you arent with them you miss them and want them back?when i was with my boyfriend we would argue all the time and i would think about being with other people and didnt want to be with him but now we have broke up i miss him and keep thinking of him and the good times.. even thought we werent happy together near the end and always argued... please and advice would help me thanks x
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (10 October 2010):
Hi there. It always seems to be that when a relationship is over, you only remember the good times. The not so good times are just mentally blocked out, that's all.
Even if you did get back together, history would just repeat itself and you would again be ending it. You wouldn't be happy with him.
If you were incompatible then, you would be incompatible now.
You would be reminded of what you didn't like about him before.
You are probably only feeling like this, because you are not in a new relationship yet. You are only missing the good times.
Another thing to consider is:-
(1) What did you both argue about?
(2) Was it always about the same thing?
If you can answer these questions, you might have a clue as to what you are feeling now. It might present a solution to you.
Hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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reader, Cccc  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 Well I think that people come back together and if they do they should KNOW why and where they went wrong the first time around!You miss him and you want to give you guys another chance.I Think writing stuff down like "Communication was low in the sense of understanding" or "We always argue but NEVER work something out"
Make a list of things and write them down.Then when you go back you tell him WE need to work n these things if you really want to be with me and want to be happy!There are ways of resolving the Core of ISSUE and not ONLY the steam it blows off.This is a relationship killer no doubt!
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