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writes:I don't know why am I like this, I think I don't have enough confidence to speak in front of many people, I feel so frustrated because I know how to speak english, but when there are times when speaking in english is required, i always find myself afraid, and unable to say something..grr,what will i do?,what's wrong with me?your responses are highly appreciated :))
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your answers!! :))
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): If english is your second language, it's not unusual at all. It just takes practice.
Someone suggested this organization in a previous post:
www.toastmasters.org
Good luck.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 Not every one likes public speaking. But those who do love it (I'm one who loves public speaking).
There is nothing wrong with you. There are millions of people in the world who shrink from public speaking.
But once you get going you will love it.
If you are being asked to speak to large groups then there is informaton you know that these people want to hear - from you.
So it is a great opportunity - for you.
When you are about to speak to a group then in the early days it is normal to be a little concerned. But with time you will divest yourself of that concern and proceed with confidence.
Practice makes perfect.
I time my presentations
I structure my presentations to the following:
"Outline what I will be telling them
Tell them in detail about each point
Summarise what I told them"
If it is a new one I practice it multiple times.
Check that I don't go over.
Now I can read without any notes. But in the early days I needed tiny cards that I could refer to.
Power point allows a little cheating, but you should be able to talk off the cuff during the talk without having to see every word you will say on power point.
Try to find a trusted relative or friend who will listen to your final presentation and give you feedback before the event.
And I practice my opening first few minutes more than anything. As it is crucial to connect with the audience immediately.
Then on the day I practice one more time.
And I also ensure before I go to a venue that I know the group and what they are expecting from me and what I have in common with the group.
If it is a group that I know very well, then I might choose a slightly different opening, such as an enthusiastic one, telling them something that will connect with them.
And before I enter the room I tell myself that these people are not here to judge me. They have asked me to speak. Therefore they are my friends and they will welcome me. In return I will give them the information that they are seeking from me.
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reader, Abella +, writes (1 February 2011):
Not every one likes public speaking. But those who do love it (I'm one who loves public speaking).
When you are about to speak to a group then in the early days it is normal to be a little concerned. But with time you will divest yourself of that concern and proceed with confidence.
Practice makes perfect.
I time my presentations
I structure my presentations to the following
If it is a new one I practice it multiple times.
Check that I don't go over.
Now I can read without any notes. But in the early days I needed tiny cards that I could refer to.
Power point allows a little cheating, but you should be able to talk off the cuff during the talk without having to see every word you will say on power point.
Try to find a trusted relative or friend who will listen to your final presentation and give you feedback before the event.
And I practice my opening first few minutes more than anything. As it is crucial to connect with the audience immediately.
Then on the day I practice one more time.
And I also ensure before I go to a venue that I know the group and what they are expecting from me and what I have in common with the group.
If it is a group that I know very well, then I might choose a slightly different opening, such as an enthusiastic one, telling them something that will connect with them.
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reader, Demoni  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 You might want to try chat rooms with an audio interface. That way you are in control of the situation and you can do it more and more until you feel ready to do in in a real world situation.
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